Feeling very low at 12 weeks pregnant after neighbour threats

[Lilmisskayos86]

Hi all, I'm currently nearly 12 weeks pregnant. I'm feeling so rubbish, crying all the time, very low mood, no energy and just feeling so helpless and no motivation.

I have had a lot going on I've rthe last few months with my neighbour. On Friday he came to my house and threatened me with threats to kill. The police have issued a public notice order on him.

I only moved into my house December just gone, now I hate living here and don't want to be in the house and it just doesn't feel like home anymore.

This is not my first pregnancy. I have a 16 year old and a 18 month old. I have history of some depression and anxiety. Especially health anxiety.

I don't know if because I'm nearly 40 that I'm finding it harder this pregnancy or what but I feel absolutely low and crying all the time. I'm hoping it will pass but at the moment I don't feel any joy in being pregnant. Has anyone else felt like this during pregnancy?

Thanks for reading

Can you move?

We are with social housing. The HA has said we would need to be in the property for 12 months before we would be eligible to move even after everything that has happened. I loved this house when we moved in and have spent a fortune on it, now I hate it.

Pregnancy is exhausting and with an 18 month old, you’re not able to rest as much as you could with the others.

I assume DH is supportive and so be honest with him about how tired you are.

I do remember being so tired around this time but it passes.

Obviously now on top you have the extra stress and worry about your nightmare neighbour and so this is of course going to take its toll.

Ignore him as much as possible and report him to the police every single time.
Get a ring door bell and have your phone ready to record anything you need to go outside.

I would definitely be looking for somewhere else to rent.

How come you only recently moved there?
Where were you before?

This all sounds awful, does your partner/husband/baby’s father live with you? If so can he not go round and stand up to your neighbour? I’d imagine your neighbour would be less intimidating to a man.

My DH does live with me but he works so not here all the time. He is very supportive. He wanted to go round when the neighbour made the threat, however my DH would have more to lose than the neighbour as my neighbour would call the police on my DH. My DH would lose his job where as my neighbours don't work so they don't have much to lose.

I agree pregnancy is so much harder with a toddler and to top it off tonight, my bath is now leaking and coming through the ceiling in the hallway downstairs and leaked on to my daughter's brand new carpet and landing flooring. So I have to wait up for an electrician to make my electrics safe and then get a plumber....so I'm now in tears again....

I have left a message with my midwife to contact me about me feeling so low.

We moved as we were over crowded in our last property.