Is a solo holiday reasonable while my fiancée is 24-25 weeks pregnant?

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Hi all, Is it ok do you think to go on a solo holiday when my fiancée is pregnant. She will be 26 weeks pregnant a day after im back. She seems to be ok with it, would be back still in 2nd trimester and only gone over one weekend albeit for 1.5 weeks. I thought id just wait to see we weren’t having twins (no family history but you never know). TIA

What is the reason for going without her?

If she's ok with it then there's your answer. I think the only caveat is that you need to be contactable at all times, just in case. Can she not go with you? Might be nice to both get some time away before parenthood kicks in!

I think you should be asking her, not us.

Yeah I think that’s fine but I’m not your fiancée

Even if she’s fine, think of it like this: how you show up for your fiancée at this stage of her life (pregnancy and post partum) will shape your relationship forever. My husband stepped up hugely in doing more cleaning and all the cooking, prepped my snacks each week, made sure I rested and more. He didn’t leave for more than a few nights (to help a sick relative) because he wanted to be there in case I needed him. On the flip side, I know someone whose husband did nothing extra, didn’t try to understand or support her, and then barely helped with the workload post partum. You can guess which of us has the happier marriage 😬

Long story short, decide what kind of husband and father you want to be and live that. Best of luck!

If she went into premature labour, how quickly could you get back - would you come back.

Dont understand the twins bit.

Would you not save your annual leave for when/after the baby arrives? How long were you planning to go away for?

If you’re unsure if it’s twins atm I’m guessing you haven’t had the 12 week scan! In theory there is absolutely nothing wrong with going but by It might be worth seeing how she is doing with pregnancy before you book. Some people float through it but others don’t and she might need support depending how long you’re going for .

If she’s fine with it, then it’s fine.

I quite enjoyed it when my DH went away when I was pregnant. I got the bed to myself, could eat whatever I fancied and put my feet up and watch trashy TV every evening!

Are you a man?

Its kind of weird to ask mumsnet - have you already asked her and shes said no, so youre asking other women?

Or are you asking so you can say to her, well these women think its fine so you should too?

If she’s ok with it, there no medical issues and you leave things set up so she can have a lovely relaxing weekend I think it’s fine. Spend some time beforehand getting in her favourite snacks, easy meals and making sure the house is clean so she can relax too

Yes no maybe it depends

I wouldn't be booking anything expensive and that couldn't be cancelled or cut short easily. She might be ok with you having the holiday now but things can change in the meantime.

You don't know how this pregnancy will go and what she will need from you at 26 weeks. I had hyperemesis with my first and my partner most probably would have had to cancel the trip. Although slightly after 26 weeks, I developed liver complications with my second and went from being active and being ok to being quite poorly and having preterm labour assessments with my second.

My DH went to Spain for two weeks when I was 36-37 weeks pregnant with baby number 2 (taking our first son with him too) and it was bliss.

It wouldn’t even have crossed my mind to be concerned at 24 weeks pregnant.