Struggling

[QuirkyCoralWasp]

Since I have gotten pregnant I have been feeling seriously exhausted and unwell for the majority of the time. I'm only 6 weeks along and experiencing severe nausea, even more tired and really uncomfortable bloating.

My husband thinks I'm essentially playing it up so that I don't have to do chores around the house. Keeps going on about how tired he is from the stag do he went to over a week ago and has now said to me today that if he was pregnant he'd do a better job. He thinks I should be able to do all my normal stuff and only feel a bit rough from it. He also says I have done nothing around the house since I have gotten pregnant which hurts cos I have been trying to do what I can.

My hormones are not taking all of this well, there are times I genuinely feel hate for him for not doing enough/not having empathy for how I'm feeling. I usually have a lot more patience when this sort of disagreements occur but since getting pregnant my patience is gone.

I honestly feel really lonely. I don't really have anyone to talk to cos I'm still in early stages. I just needed to vent badly. I'm not even sure this post makes complete sense. I'm just sad.

I'm really sorry you're feeling rough and even more sorry that you aren't being supported by your husband. I'm pregnant with baby no.2 and my husband hasn't been great this time around, he was much better the first time around but we have a busier life now so he doesn't have as much time to help me. Unfortunately they just can't understand how we're feeling, flu is about the closest he could ever experience for the tiredness. I'd recommend confiding in some women who have had children and I'm sure you'll find some understanding. I told my mam and best friend who've both had 3 kids and they've both been amazing! If you have a mother in law feel free to tell her and hopefully she can influence her son to be more understanding.

Also feel free to remind your husband you're literally growing little arms and legs this week!

I'm sorry but your husband sounds extremely immature and selfish and honestly a bit of a prick. What is HE doing around the house?

From 6-12 weeks I was in bed from 7.30 most njghts, the first trimester exhaustion very real.

You need to stand up for yourself, be real with him and nip this in the bed now or you'll be back here in 9 months time saying you have a newborn, are doing all the night feeds, nappies and your husband is complaining that you're not keeping the house up to scratch even though you're 'home all day'

Sorry to sound harsh but with his attitude it's not going to get better once the baby arrives

We have a big family and every pregnancy my body reacted badly all the way thru even the 2 twins ones, soon as I gave birth it was like a miracle every time after an hour I started to feel myself again. The fatigue, heaviness, vomitting, migraines, joint pains, was right thru for me to the point I had to give up work. All our babies were born fine, healthy weights and on time my body just doesn't like being pregnant

I’d get him to go to your first booking appointment with you to see the midwife. She’ll ask to see you alone for a portion- tell her then that he doesn’t seem to understand the tiredness and can she do a run down of symptoms in front of him.

Hi OP, I’m now 31 weeks along but had severe nausea (hg) and exhaustion for the first 5 months. With my son it went at 13 weeks, most woman will feel better after first trimester

Please speak to your gp about medication. Xonvea saved me!!

Your husband is incredibly cruel and immature, I’d worry he wouldn’t be supportive after birth if he is like this now. A sit down chat is needed!

Your husband is the problem here, not your pregnancy.

Your husband sounds awful, I'm so sorry because you probably love him, but being so unsupportive so early on in pregnancy is such a red flag. Is he going to be this unsupportive if something happens during pregnancy that really takes you out? With my first I had such bad SPD I could barely walk by the end.

The first trimester fatigue is absolutely unreal. I was having a daily 4pm nap just to make it through to bedtime. He is being completely unreasonable, selfish and useless.

Agree with a PP to get a health professional to talk some sense into him. And to lean on some other women for support if you're not getting it from your husband. Early pregnancy is rough, especially if he is the only other person who knows at this point. I ended up ringing my mum in tears at about 7am when I was 7w pregnant, which is not how I planned to tell her, but I was feeling so rough and miserable (and my DH was extremely supportive) and needed her.

I hope you feel better soon and I hope he pulls his head out of his arsehole and steps up.