33 weeks pregnant : partner leaving to go on holiday

[pinkdreamy]

I’m currently 33 weeks pregnant, almost 34 and my partner is going away tonight for a stag do in Benidorm for 5 days. We only moved to this home about 7 months ago and it’s a safe neighbourhood, I’m fine here during the day but for some reason my anxiety has spiked thinking about being alone in the evenings and having to go to sleep alone. I know it sounds silly as I’m 25 and I lived alone for years before I met him but does anyone have any tips on how I can handle this? I knew about the stag do 6 months ago so I can’t even be mad really and I’m not even that dependant on him typically but I’m really scared to spend these evenings alone. I don’t have any friends at all, I only have my mum but she works nights and can only come in the mornings. I feel like I’m just being silly but if anyone can relate please offer any advice that will help

What are you afraid is going to happen? Can you distract yourself with work etc?

I don’t actually know, I think just the fear of being completely alone in the house it’s made me on edge like I wake up every 30 mins or so to the slightest sound or movement. I think I’ve just identified my partner as my safety net and now I’m alone without him for the first time I’m freaking out. I just hate feeling like this whilst pregnant, I want her to be relaxed at all times and when I’m in this state I feel I’m distressing her too 😕I’m off on mat leave now so no work during the days, I just want to get over this it’s not fun being an adult and feeling like a scared little child in your own home lol

Please do take this chance to enjoy all the space in the bed. If you wake so easily that might be better with him not in the bed. Snuggle down and try some relaxing podcasts to settle into your space. I had DD at 22, lone parent since she was 1. She’s 14 now. Still feel like a scared kid sometimes but I’ve been on my own all these years and I’ve got this down.

Ask a friend over?

Try ear plugs, silicone ones are great to block out sounds or put some white noise on like wave sounds it will stop you startling at every creak in the house.
make sure you walk and are active in the day so you are naturally tired.
And you are not in your own, you are with your baby so talk to you bump and narrate your day to it, sing and dance and take long baths. And as pp said enjoy the space in the bed