Grief and pregnant

[newmumtobe1998]

Lost our 14 year old dog yesterday and I’m 25 weeks pregnant. Obviously have been so upset and extremely emotional for the past two days. Any one else go through something similar during their time pregnant?grie

so sorry to hear about your sweet dog passing the rainbow bridge

mine isn’t the same but I thought would give you some reassurance.

I unexpectedly found out I was pregnant at the start of February after having a second trimester miscarriage in October. I had to go for an early scan (6 weeks) the day after what should have been my original due date. I was extremely upset and had a whole load of mix emotions and confided in a member of the team.

I was assured that, whilst it’s not great to be stressed and emotional in pregnancy, it was a normal response and unlikely to harm baby if it’s a short period of unrest. What they meant by that was, I had to look after myself and try have some relaxed days and on the harder days make sure I still look after myself eating and drinking etc. They advised that prolonged stress is what they most worry about no matter the gestation of pregnancy.

I hope this helps ease your mind even just a little and that you feel a little better soon

I live abroad but visited my terminally ill 36 year old friend in my hometown while 7 weeks pregnant, visited her in hospice at 4 months pregnant and flew home again two weeks later on my own with my toddler to go to her funeral. It was a very emotional time, but I know that it didn't affect the baby in any way. Having my toddler with me on the long journey to/from the funeral was actually a great distraction, so if there's any way you can keep busy with something that makes you feel better, it can help the days go by. Time is a healer but it's normal to have good days and bad for a long time.

@newmumtobe1998 we lost our second son at 27 weeks due to a heart defect incompatible with life. DD was born 51 weeks later and the entire pregnancy was subsumed with grief and fear. All was well, the birth was a breeze and she is now 28.