Third baby (already have one of each) should I find out the gender?

[smarSarah]

I already have one of each (a 8 and 6 year old). I’ve had one pregnancy where I found out and one that I didn’t and i always thought if I had a third I would have another surprise but now I’m wondering if it is nicer for everybody especially the children to know who to expect? Has anybody been in this situation? Or has anybody found out one time and not another, which did you prefer?

I think I would find out not for you but for the kids so that they are not disappointed. I remember being devastated when my Mum had her thirds child and it was a boy. I wanted to know could we swap it for a girl. As a full blown adult I still remember how upset I was.

I wouldn’t find out. It’s so special, to wait, and see!

I would. Partly because I don't understand the 'surprise' element. It's still a surprise if you find out at a scan.

But two other reasons 1) if you do it with a private scan clinic you can bring the kids and it makes it much more real for them. 2) I'm a control freak and wanted to know if I should be selling a bunch of stuff on vinted or not! (Third baby, third girl on the way so no vinted uploads required 😅)

I found out so the older kids knew if the baby was a boy or girl. I didn’t with the first two as they were close in age so dc1 wouldn’t have understood the concept about an unborn baby being a boy or girl.

I'm in the same position and have opted not to find out. Figured as it's the tie breaker, and we're way past the point of having any baby stuff around as they're so much older, it doesn't matter either way.

I actually thought if we found out then there would be upset one way or the other but when there's a baby here it'll all pale into insignificance which 'team' it's joining. Or otherwise if someone did/does have a strong preference then knowing early isn't going to soften that blow really. They'll just be disappointed earlier 🤷🏼‍♀️

I just had my third and also have one of each already. We done a gender reveal cake and they loved scooping the colour out with the glass! Added to their excitement and build up x