Pregnancy with anxiety

mummyofagirlxxxxx · 2026-04-28T18:46:22+00:00

Hey, I am currently 5/6 weeks pregnant with our second baby absolutely overjoyed!! But also the minute I found out I was pregnant the anxiety took over😣 all I think about is ‘I’ve lost my baby’ or I am going to a scan and they will tell me there is no baby or heartbeat. I CAN NOT SHIFT THE FEELING and it’s driving me absolutely insane, I just want to enjoy my pregnancy, I never got the anxiety with my first baby… my partner and family are so reassuring but I don’t want to mention it everyday to them cos they are happy they don’t want me mentioning about me losing the baby before it’s happened. I know everything will be ok ❤️ it doesn’t help that I’ve took a clear blue week pregnancy test and it’s took on 2-3 for the past 5 days? Read somewhere that people knew they were miscarrying when it don’t move to 3 plus 😣 also I don’t have any symptoms either! I can’t be the only one feeling like this surely!!! I just want everything to be ok.

DevilsKitchen · 28/04/2026 19:48

Hi Op, I’m 7 weeks and feeling a lot of what you are experiencing. Anxiety, fear, horrible feeling that we are making a big mistake despite this baby being planned (although we didn’t expect to get pregnant on the first try so it was still a bit of a surprise!).

No advice only sympathy - being pregnant is hard.

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mummyofagirlxxxxx · 28/04/2026 19:55

DevilsKitchen · 28/04/2026 19:48

Hi Op, I’m 7 weeks and feeling a lot of what you are experiencing. Anxiety, fear, horrible feeling that we are making a big mistake despite this baby being planned (although we didn’t expect to get pregnant on the first try so it was still a bit of a surprise!).

No advice only sympathy - being pregnant is hard.

Hey @DevilsKitchen

Congratulations 🥰 I am glad I am not the only one with anxiety I think that’s the joys of being pregnant 😣 I completely understand what you mean in terms of it being a mistake cos a baby is such a big responsibility and changes your life more than you’ll ever know, you will be the best parents to that little baby when he/she is born ❤️

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TheProudSeal · 28/04/2026 20:28

I had exceptional anxiety during pregnancy - to the point I did not even tell friends until I was 32 weeks. I was referred to perinatal mental health twice, and I attended maternity assessment a grand total of 24 times due to concerns I had during the pregnancy. The feeling never lifted until the moment my placenta was delivered and I could see him. They delivered me early due to the level of my distress. I would make myself self after eating certain foods due to levels of concern it would harm the developing pregnancy, for example.

The anxiety has completely gone; I have had nothing but the bare minimum of contact now with services and people think I am glowing post - natally. Baby napping on me now.

My only advice would be go easy on yourself and realise that although you say you have no symptoms, heightened anxiety can definately be a pregnancy symptom as it was for me! Ensure the midwife refers you early for perinatal mental health too - do not be like me and get referred as an emergency at 24 weeks - I should have pushed earlier.

Another tip is just to stop testing, stop googling - it will make no difference, leave it to the professionals. Essentially, the outcome of the pregnancy is determined at conception, there is little you can do. Easier said than done. I had one or two friends who knew the extent of my anxiety - and that I was pregnant who I spoke to often, I retreated from everyone else. I am 6 weeks post natal and still haven’t ‘announced’ it, someone called me a weirdo for this but it the only way I could cope.

Take care and good luck

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mummyofagirlxxxxx · 28/04/2026 20:41

TheProudSeal · 28/04/2026 20:28

I had exceptional anxiety during pregnancy - to the point I did not even tell friends until I was 32 weeks. I was referred to perinatal mental health twice, and I attended maternity assessment a grand total of 24 times due to concerns I had during the pregnancy. The feeling never lifted until the moment my placenta was delivered and I could see him. They delivered me early due to the level of my distress. I would make myself self after eating certain foods due to levels of concern it would harm the developing pregnancy, for example.

The anxiety has completely gone; I have had nothing but the bare minimum of contact now with services and people think I am glowing post - natally. Baby napping on me now.

My only advice would be go easy on yourself and realise that although you say you have no symptoms, heightened anxiety can definately be a pregnancy symptom as it was for me! Ensure the midwife refers you early for perinatal mental health too - do not be like me and get referred as an emergency at 24 weeks - I should have pushed earlier.

Another tip is just to stop testing, stop googling - it will make no difference, leave it to the professionals. Essentially, the outcome of the pregnancy is determined at conception, there is little you can do. Easier said than done. I had one or two friends who knew the extent of my anxiety - and that I was pregnant who I spoke to often, I retreated from everyone else. I am 6 weeks post natal and still haven’t ‘announced’ it, someone called me a weirdo for this but it the only way I could cope.

Take care and good luck

Hey, firstly a massive congratulations on your baby boy🥰
I am so sorry you’ve gone through such a hard time through pregnancy with anxiety, what should have been an exciting time of your lives turns into the worst sometimes:( I do feel for you but glad you are better now ❤️

i do suffer with bad health anxiety but can’t remember if i was like this with my daughter i was working full time when i was pregnant so I don’t think i had a chance to even think about ‘what if I lose her’ although when I was heavily pregnant she wasn’t much of a mover and wouldn’t feel her kick as much as I thought I would have so I also was in the maternity unit pretty much once a week after 30 weeks.

I think my anxiety this time round tho is cos i am a stay at home mum to my almost 2 year Old girl so have more time to think about stupid things 🫣

hope you and your little boy are doing well x

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