Does pregnancy anxiety after miscarriage ever ease in the early weeks

[Niftymum88]

Does the anxiety ever stop?

on the 13th of February I was in epu 9 weeks 4 days, or so I should have been. Our sweet pea had stopped growing at 6 weeks and my body hadn’t even recognised our loss.

i was hesitant to try again and thankfully caught on straight away.
im 5 weeks 3 days.
i feel constantly sick unless I eat, headaches and currently have vertigo (apparently caused by raising hcg) which I know are all promising signs’

ever single pain, twinge I’m anxious about,
mom trying to think positive and say to myself today I’m pregnant.

ive thought about booking an early scan but I know it will make no difference in the outcome and to just wait it out, enjoy the pregnancy, but i just can’t shake the feelings off.

For me it just got a bit less with every week I progressed, I didn’t really feel like it stopped until I got to the 3rd trimester though.
My advice would be take one week at a time and think of small things to look forward to along the way
I also didn’t enjoy either of my pregnancies until I was past around 16 weeks and over the nausea!

I suffered with recurrent miscarriages before falling pregnant with my daughter (born January) and for me it didn’t ease until she was regularly moving, and even then I’d have days where I was more anxious than others. I had early scans and to be honest the relief only lasted until we got back to the car. Take each day as it comes and speak to someone if you’re feeling overwhelmed 🤍

Sadly It doesnt. Im 11 weeks after 4 loses and im a wreck

I think this is so individual. I am now 32 weeks pregnant after an early loss in November 2024. I found the first trimester so hard and hated every scan I went to because I expected to be told she was gone. Even now I don't look forward to scans but I no longer dread them as much.

I found pregnancy a lot easier when I started to feel her move but I also know that mentally I couldn't be pregnant again. Equally other people find ways to cope that work for them.

I have found it doesn’t go, I’m 28 weeks after a number of miscarriages and I still feel stressed every day that something has or will go wrong x

This is all so very sad :(
I had two miscarriages followed by a rainbow baby and yes it was nerve racking! I agree with the others that once I started feeling movements it was a little easier. I am so sorry that so many of us feel this anxiety after loss. Just remember that the anxiety you are feeling is because you already love this new little life so much and you are in protective mode. I am convinced these precious little babies feel this love <3

Our infertility consultant told us 18 years ago that an early scan DOES make a difference to the outcome after miscarriages (I had had 3) although apparently this was only statistically significant where there hasn’t been a pregnancy that has gone successfully to term so far.

So I had a scan at about 6 weeks and our little bean is about to sit his A levels.

Maybe increased confidence and reduced anxiety after the scan is helpful for mum and baby, in this situation?

i found it gets easier week by week. I lost two babies at week 8 so at my next pregnancy at week 8 I was a wreck. When that baby was born we both burst into tears - tears of relief the baby was safely here which felt so different to my first.

I don't think the anxiety ever goes away.
I do think I got more fatalistic about it - if that's the right word. There was nothing I could do to change the outcome so I was anxious but accepting

Thank you everyone 💜

Very best of luck OP. My wife is currently 8 weeks pregnant after 3 miscarriages (6, 8 and 12 weeks) and the anxiety is horrendous for both of us despite a positive scan last week. We have had various tests undertaken at the hospital which have confirmed no issues with either of us, but I don't think the anxiety does get any better unfortunately, we just try and take things a day at a time and I am doing all I can to support her.

I'm so sorry for your previous loss.

I'm currently 14 weeks pregnant, having experienced a loss 17 weeks ago. Whilst I'm incredibly grateful to be pregnant again so soon, the anxiety has been crippling some days.

I had an early scan and was prescribed progesterone, which helped my mindset. I then had an private scan at 9 weeks, but which point seeing a heartbeat reduces the miscarriage risk significantly. It still meant on the day of my NHS dating scan, I was filled with dread, but I feel as though I'm somewhat coming out of the other side now.

Sending you lots of well wishes x

Not really! It just changes as the weeks go by.
I've had 8 losses though which is very unusual, currently 28 weeks and still an anxious mess. 😅

For me, no. But then I bled on and off throughout the pregnancy, starting a 6 weeks and ending around the start of the 3rd trimester, which didn't help!

DD2 also didn't have a good movement pattern (which was noted as her pattern - i.e. her pattern was no pattern, and I was up at the maternity unit more times than I can count for both bleeding and reduced movements.

I think my anxiety only started to ease in the 3rd trimester, once we passed the 'viability' point.

I only had 1 miscarriage, it was following a successful pregnancy with DD1, but it was enough. To all you amazing women dealing with multiple losses you really are super strong.