Should I raise low mood with my midwife?

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When should I worry about my mood and what realistically happens if you raise with a midwife?

I’m nearly 20 weeks pregnant and a couple of people close to me have told me I seem very depressed. I haven’t really felt happy at any point during this pregnancy, but it was basically unplanned and is causing a lot of sudden changes in my life which I’m finding it hard to adjust to. I feel very little connection towards the pregnancy. I’ve had some fairly dark thoughts on some days.

I sort of can’t be bothered to get into this with a midwife though. What are they going to do? I don’t believe in anti-depressants and therapy so I imagine all they’ll do is flag me to services that won’t help much. I think a lot of this is situational and I’m hoping will change once I get further in my pregnancy/baby is born (if we get that far).

Yes please do. They will want to help you.
It’s totally ok for your baby to be unplanned. It’s been the case for most of history! It’s only since the advent of contraception ppl talked about planned babies. Most baby’s ever conceived have been unplanned.

I’m not sure what exactly will happen because I ignored low mood in pregnancy and didn’t tell anyone, hoping it would get better. I then had a massive breakdown after baby was born. I was resistant to meds and therapy too. It ended up lasting for six years.
I don’t mean to scare you, but do not underestimate how bad things get when the hormones crash after birth and the realities of parenthood begin particularly lack of sleep.
Get help now. Start by telling your midwife but if that doesn’t get you the help you need, go to your GP. Bring one of those people who care enough to point this out to you if you can if this might help. Write down exactly how you feel beforehand because it can be hard to explain once you are in the appointment.
Saying you don’t believe in drugs or therapy is like saying you don’t believe in antibiotics or physiotherapy. It’s the very same. It is probably the depression talking anyway. You have to fight that.
Please, please get help ASAP. I can’t go back in time and tell myself so I’m telling you. Don’t put yourself through hell and lose the first few years of your child’s life.
The longer depression goes untreated, the harder it is to treat. The more it takes hold, the harder it gets to think objectively outside of it and the less and less likely you will be to ask for help. It affects your thoughts so that you can’t think clearly.
Please do ask for help and best of luck xx

Yes OP, please tell your midwife. They will keep an eye on you and if you don’t want any referrals they at least know and can monitor you.