Feeling really guilty

[babyignoramus]

I'm 5 weeks pg and have got my first doc's appt on Monday. Told 3 of my closest friends yesterday (2 guys and a girl)- not because I'm overexcited and couldn't wait, but because I'm a bit shell-shocked and having those 3 know makes life easier and avoids awkward questions, eg, 'why aren't you drinking'? etc. Now one of them has already blabbed to another friend (literally an hour after I'd left I got a text saying congratulations) and we've had to tell her boyfriend as well so he isn't left out. Now tt feels like everyone knows (although that's far from the case) and DH is upset with me because we wanted to make a proper announcement and he feels like he's missed out.

I feel terrible. Please reassure me that others have made the same mistake!!

It's very hard to keep it a secret sometimes! And it's them who shouldn't have gossiped, not you.

What's done is done. Just make sure that each one who now knows is also aware that they must not tell anyone else.

Thank you. I have bollocked the one that blabbed and the others know they're sworn to secrecy. Me and DH had have a chat and he says he just sorry to have missed out on the reactions. As two of them were blokes, the reactions weren't that exciting...! Something along the lines of 'well, I guess you're not having a pint then'!

Have promised that he gets to tell everyone else.....

For a start - CONGRATULATIONS!

I kinda did the same as you (not being rude but i think its a woman thing). I was only 4 weeks pg when i told my sister. she came round and although i had no symptoms, i felt like she was looking at me differently (of course this was all in my imagination) so i told her. She was delighted and everything but when she left i told DP what i'd done. He sorta looked at me as if to say "oh well done". I felt bad, i couldnt help it though, i needed someone to talk to about it all. Subsequently i did it again to a friend but after discussing it through with DP i explained to him that i just needed some emotional support from them and he understood. The rest we told together after 12 weeks, which was really nice, felt like we really bonded over our happy news.

The rest is just a blur of history now.

Hope everything goes well for you

Thank you babylove, that makes me feel lots better. I think he does understand that for me it's a physical thing as well as emotional and I feel happier and safer knowing that a few people around me are aware that I might be acting or feeling different. It's def a girl thing I think - we need to able to tallk about stuff! Plus we're blazing the trail amongst our friends so I'm a bit lost cause I don't really know any other mums. Apart from mine of course!