Will I regret keeping baby number 4?

[Mumofthreex3]

I am pregnant with baby number 4. Unplanned.

My partner and I have been together for almost 3 years. He has 3 children from a previous relationship and is a great dad. I have 3 children from my previous marriage and their dad is almost never involved.

We have never wanted children together, we have enough between us, kids are growing, starting over with a baby, the usual discussions and worries.

I have had the copper coil since my youngest child, so around 6 years.

Period was late, not overly unusual for me, but something just didn't feel right and you guessed it, a positive test. Cue frantic calls to doctor as I have a coil, could be ectopic etc.

Had a scan yesterday, baby is in the correct place and no sign of my coil! These can fall out or move, not uncommon so they have said. No worries except what am I going to do!

I have never thought about having more children, and although I love my partner we have never wanted children together, but somehow now that this has happened I can't help feeling that this was meant to be somehow.

Does anyone have any similar experiences that can share some insight. I really do feel lost and haven't spoken to anyone IRL.

It’s not ‘meant to be’ OP, it’s a contraceptive failure. What does your partner think? I think you need to look at everything here, your ages, house and car size, finances, and how it will impact your existing kids. You probably won’t regret keeping a baby but there’s a reasonable chance your kids might, and you are both so lucky in life having 6 kids between you already.

If you want to keep the baby then that’s what you should do, but really think about all the different sides of this and impacts it will have to make sure you are comfortable with your decision. Try not to get caught up on ‘meant to be’ while you are still deciding what to do, it’s too complicated for that. Good luck with whatever you decide OP