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Going abroad after complications

22 replies

Catlady1991 · 12/04/2026 17:26

We tried for a baby for 2 years and as we were about to start NHS IVF I found out that I was pregnant. I am almost 28 weeks and up until
now my pregnancy has been low risk. I have a large cervical polyp and cervical ectropion which has caused 6 episodes of bleeding/spotting. On Thursday evening I had some bleeding, so attended maternity triage to get checked and all was ok, got told that both problems with my cervix caused it. Yesterday morning I woke up to a massive bleed, like day 2 of your period it was everywhere. Called the hospital and went straight back up, they checked baby as soon as I arrived and his CTG didn’t come back as meeting the criteria. Saw the doctor who did a speculum exam who said I had a lot of bleeding and talked about admitting me. Was put on the CTG again and baby met the criteria this time, a few hours later the doctor told me that she is happy for me to go home but I need to rest and monitor. I’ve been told that every episode of bleeding needs investigation incase it is something else and not related to either problem with my cervix.

We are due to go to South of France next weekend for 11 days. The Dr told me that I should reconsider my plans, we can get the money back fine. I agree with her, I’ve been anxious this whole pregnancy and now I’m even more anxious. I keep thinking about worst case scenario happening and while we are away and something happening to the baby, we live less than 5 minutes from our local hospital. I’ve told my partner how I feel but he keeps telling me how we’ll be fine, we shouldn’t write off the holiday and that I can still get a fit to fly letter privately. All our family and friends are agreeing with me but I can see we are going to fall out over this. I have suggested taking the baby in October when he is 3 months old.

AIBU?

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RandomMess · 12/04/2026 17:29

I think you need to be insistent that you won’t be going anywhere as having your find maternity care in a foreign country is ridiculously unnecessary.

Burntout01 · 12/04/2026 17:31

Accept that you will just have to ‘fall out’ with people and be totally fine with that!!!
Even without your history of fertility struggles I would consider you mad to travel given the multiple episodes of bleeding you have had, and unfortunately until the polyp and ectropian are treated its likely to continue happening.
Being a Mum involves putting your baby/ child first and your Husband will just have to adapt to that a bit earlier than most!!

Nursemumma92 · 12/04/2026 17:36

No I definitely wouldn't chance it. It's definitely disappointing and hopefully all will be fine pregnancy wise but with ongoing episodes of bleeding and an NHS Dr advising against it, I definitely wouldn't. I doubt a private Dr would do a fit to fly if they knew the full history.

This is the time he needs to step up as a father and put his baby and his partner first.

Greybeardy · 12/04/2026 17:49

would be surprised if anyone would sign you as fit to fly and even more surprised if the airline agreed and your travel insurance would cover it.

FeelingSadToday1 · 12/04/2026 17:57

OP, I am a midwife. Please stay home and rest. If he has to be immature and fall out with you, so be it.

handbagsandholidays · 12/04/2026 18:15

I wouldn’t chance it. I got the all clear at my 20 week scan to go on holiday and ended up spending 9 out of our 12 day holiday in hospital abroad. It was scary! The nhs kept putting my bleeding down to “one of those things” but it turned out to be much more than that. Thankfully all turned out all ok in the end but it wasn’t a straightforward pregnancy in the end.

Posner · 12/04/2026 18:31

Woah… you have a massive problem. You’re about to have a baby with an absolute dick. There will be many threads from you I suspect in the future.

As for going away, I can barely dignify the question with a response.

Posner · 12/04/2026 18:32

Your doctor has been explicit

and your twat of of a partner thinks he knows better

Dalmationday · 12/04/2026 18:33

You would be mad to go. Don’t do it

onlygeese · 12/04/2026 18:41

Traveling would be completely irresponsible, I can’t imagine you getting a fit to fly certificate or insurance. It’s disappointing but your DP should be focusing on looking after you and dc.

Youtookthebrightmoon · 12/04/2026 18:45

Stay at home please OP.
Rest. Follow the medical advice you were given. Please.

Howeverfar · 12/04/2026 19:51

South of France will still be there when baby is born. Stay put. Rest. Your partner is being unreasonable.

DramaAlpaca · 12/04/2026 19:53

You'd be mad to go away. Stay put!

redboxerclub · 12/04/2026 19:55

Wow. No way he is being completely and utterly unreasonable. Do not go. He can go by himself. You can stay at home.

saminamama · 12/04/2026 19:57

Don’t do it you won’t feel happy and comfortable you will be feeling on edge and wish you were home

Catlady1991 · 12/04/2026 20:36

Thanks ladies.

My mind is made up, going to tell him tomorrow

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Oddgain · 13/04/2026 06:32

You do see that this doesn’t bode well, don’t you? Your partner overrules medical opinion (as well as his partner, who’s actually carrying the baby) regarding the safety of his child because he wants to go on holiday?

Catlady1991 · 14/04/2026 15:41

Update … so we’ve spoken about it and he understands where I’m coming from/that I won’t be going. Is now talking about going on his own because he needs a holiday 🤯

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Peonies12 · 14/04/2026 15:43

Absolutely dont go and obviously he shouldnt go - have a holiday in the Uk where you know where the nearest hospital is. I also would really not commit to going away with your baby. You don’t know what could happen with the birth and the reality of having a baby!

Youtookthebrightmoon · 15/04/2026 07:37

Catlady1991 · 14/04/2026 15:41

Update … so we’ve spoken about it and he understands where I’m coming from/that I won’t be going. Is now talking about going on his own because he needs a holiday 🤯

That is shocking OP. I’m so sorry he’s behaving like this. I’d be staying close to the hospital for now.

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onlygeese · 15/04/2026 18:38

Catlady1991 · 14/04/2026 15:41

Update … so we’ve spoken about it and he understands where I’m coming from/that I won’t be going. Is now talking about going on his own because he needs a holiday 🤯

I’m wishing you all the best with your dc.
Your DP seems little more than dead weight that you are carrying at this point.

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