Happy with two boys and no strong wish for a girl

[Thuraya17]

Does anyone else really not care about having a girl? I have a little boy who I absolutely adore. I always thought I would eventually want a girl because of the girly outfits and doing her hair all cute etc. well I’m pregnant with my second (probably last too as it’s my second pregnancy with HG and both me and my husband are traumatised by how sick I’ve been) and I just don’t feel like I would be disappointed if it was another boy, like two of our son who we literally adore, two healthy babies, what a blessing.

im almost scared it will be a girl because we can’t agree on girls name and we have a boy name picked out, we’ve already parented a boy, we have tons of clothes and toys from my 2 year old boy that we can reuse which will make my heart so happy because il see all his little things again 🥹 I just feel like I will be fine with 2 boys.

everyone seems to think I would have to try for a 3rd then because I would ‘need’ a little girl. Would I love a little girl to do girly things with? Yes. Would I love to be a maternal grandmother one day? Yes. But I could also just be a great mother in law and respect my future DILs boundaries and spoil them like I would my own daughters so that I still get to be a valued grandmother. my husband also liked the idea of being a girl dad but I don’t think we want more than 2 kids in this day and age, we would rather give the world in time, resources and energy to the two we have. Would you agree or would you want both genders?

my MIL now has 6 boys because she was trying for a girl, I just think that’s proof that you get what you’re supposed to have 😅

I have two boys and three kids is my nightmare, two is enough for me. I never felt any need to try for a girl and anyone who suggested that got shot down immediately so it never came up again. Love my two boys. Babies are a lottery - you get what you get and you don't get upset! If people do they are wasting energy on something completely out of their control.

I could have wrote this.
I have a teen stepson, a boy toddler and currently pregnant. I won't find out what I am having and people are gobsmacked that I don't care either way. In some ways I obviously would love a girl, but another boy might be easier too.... who knows?

We are also done after this child, we couldn't afford more and tbh I feel the house is full enough! I've no wishes to go through pregnancy and post partum again and the timing works out great for early retirement when our kids are starting to go out on their own independence.

I've got two boys. I just felt very lucky to having a baby each time! and genuinely didn't mind either way.
My sons are very different in terms of personality and looks, so it never really felt the same experience, I enjoyed each individually.

I have two boys, first time I was completely easy with either girl or boy, having had a boy when pregnant for the second time I hoped it was a boy. It was. With hindsight I’m really glad I didn’t have a girl.

I have two boys. Everyone thought I wanted a girl the second time, I didn't I wanted another boy! Then people thought I'd try for a third to have a girl: no way! I was more than happy with my two.

I have five sons. I was terrified I would have a girl. I could barely be a girl myself, let alone raise one!! 😂

i had two boys, now adults.
i wanted a girl but that was because I didn’t know anything about babies. However I was thrilled to bits when ds2 was born. Then when I was pregnant with DS 2,I hoped for a boy, because I only knew about baby boys!!
I have never had a desire for another baby , boy or girl but I don’t feel like I’ve missed out. I’m very happy with why I’ve got.

as is the case with many of you, once I had a boy, I’m now hoping my second is a boy. If we’re only having two I’d rather them be the same gender 😅 it’s just easier to do things they both enjoy I think. I’m one of two girls and loved growing up with my sister. They’ll be 3 years apart and I think that will be lovely for them to have eachother. Of course brothers and sisters can still be close and find lots of common ground but I’ve never had a brother and my husband only has brothers so I think it would be nice for our son to have a brother and then be done. I don’t want to get too set on it because of course it could be a girl but I am kind of rooting for another boy.

If you have a girl, she can still use his things! I have one of each close together and they played with the same toys.

I have one boy and I'm expecting again, I have always wanted a girl but I love the idea of two boys now - my only issue would be agreeing on a second boy's name!

DEFINITELY stopping at two regardless.

Yes toys for sure I’m thinking more about clothes. If my future girl plays with all his dinos and monster trucks il be more than happy, as children me and my sister wanted diggers and teddy lions instead of dolls no matter how much my mum tried 😂

but clothes I only really have unisex for the baby stage. I will give his clothes to friends and family if we have a girl and it will be fun to buy girly ones!

Surprisingly me and my husband love all the same boys names and can’t agree on a girls name, I know most people are the other way around 😅

OP, my DD has two boys, and is more than happy with this. She certainly will not be trying for a daughter! I had a friend who had five daughters because her DH wanted a son - sometimes, it just doesn’t happen. Whatever your second child is, you won’t be able to imagine your family any other way.

My only strong wish was for a healthy baby. I didn't care about the sex and I've no idea why people do.
You have a child, who's is unique.

This is normal, you are used to having a boy so you think it will be easier. (I had a girl and would have been happy to have another girl for the same reasons even though before having her I wanted a boy). I have one of each and am very thankful for this. Siblings, especially boys, of the same gender can fight a lot. As pp have stated we should all be happy with what ever we are blessed with. You adjust, I always thought I'd be a shit mum of a girl as I'm not girly in any regard but you learn and adjust!

I have a girl and not really fussed about the sex of this one so I can see where you’re coming from there. But all boy’s clothes are unisex, surely? Unless they all have cheesy slogans like “mummy’s little man” or something?

Also my DD is 3 and barely lets me brush her hair. The only person who can get her hair up is the nursery teacher, and all the boys have pigtails in too when she does the kids hair. Don’t limit your kids, boys or girls, with daft stereotypes.

I have two boys. Now 21 and 23. What time has taught me is that for us as a family, and them as individuals, having two of the same gender has been absolutely the best outcome.

I have a boy and I’m not pregnant yet but I want another boy. My boy is perfection and having another one of him sounds like heaven. I know that’s not how it works but having a girl scares me. If I did though, I’d be fine either way. I just can’t be “disappointed”.

I think it's fine to manage other people's expectations (well-meaning friends/family) around your perceived 'disappointment' by sending out a clear message that you are hoping for another boy. (Although that might backfire if it turns out to be a girl and you will be sooo excited but will have to temper that joy with those same people, or pretend that you 'don't know what to do with girls' or some such nonsense).

But honestly? Unless there is some deep seated trauma in your life which might lead to certain feelings, you are not 'scared' to have a girl. You are just setting yourself up for the 'oh' moment if it turns out to be another boy.

Because obviously (unless you have gone to a clinic specifically to choose the sex) you are having another baby because you want another baby. How exciting. Congratulations!