@Coffeeandbooks88@BudgetBuster do you have personal experience of an acute persistent subchorionic hematoma? Did you receive a prognosis of 25%-40% stillbirth for a much wanted child? In my case this was our last chance at IVF after I had an ectopic pregnancy and lost both my tubes to crash surgery. In the first trimester I was carrying twins, then had a vanishing twin (miscarried his sibling). Following the first onset of SH, I was on bed rest from 12 weeks until I gave birth prematurely at 32 weeks. At every step along the way, I had to contend with inept midwives who had literally never heard of a tear in the placenta, and who had no advice to offer and just fobbed me off, but also refused to transfer me to consultant care. When I went into labour, I was ignored for so long that my son contracted a nearly fatal infection. While he was in NICU, the nurses repeatedly made mistakes on his treatment until a consultant stepped in.
I’m generally a very compliant person, my kids have had every vaccine that exists, I never miss a smear, but pregnancy care in this country is beyond dire.
It’s really not that hard to use a Doppler, I mastered it very quickly and over twenty weeks of forced bed rest, I would have gone insane without it. There is no possible confusion between your heartbeat and the baby’s, they sound entirely different and are located in completely different places.
I would challenge anyone in my circumstances to think “nah, I can sleep well tonight, I don’t need to know whether my baby is alive or dead”. Please keep your judgement to yourselves, I doubt you’ve walked in my shoes.