Second pregnancy after elective C-section, anxiety and seeking experiences of repeat C-sections

[Mummmyto1]

I am looking for advice / support if anyone can help?
I had my first baby 2.5 years ago. He was born via elective C-section as he was frank breech. I was told this at 37weeks and I was in for surgery a week later.
the birth went well. But I struggled with flash backs and build up a fear of medical interventions, blood tests, injections etc. while in theatre my anxiety was so high I was given something to calm me down.
I am now 8 weeks pregnant with my second child. This was a surprise pregnancy, I had always planned just to have one.
I cannot get rid of the impending feeling of doom. All the risks that comes with having another c-section and something terrible happening and me leaving my son.
it’s getting to the point where I am questioning everything.
I absolutely love being a mum which makes me feel guilty for having these thoughts.
If anyone has had 2 or more elective c sections please share your stories.
Thankyou xx

I’ve had two! The first was the easiest, I’m not going to lie, but it was literally the easiest thing in the world, so hard to beat! I was also significantly less fit and toned when I had my second which I think makes a big difference with recovery, for me anyway. Second time around was fine too, although I was a tiny bit slower to be up and about, I’ve photos of me holding baby up to meet my horses down on the yard at two days PP so I was certainly well enough! I didn’t have a huge amount of support after having her either, DH had 10 days I think before he had to be back (self employed, own business) and then it was basically just me and the kids, and it was okay. Could’ve done with a bit longer but it is what it is.

I had 2 . No problems at a with the second one . My baggy tummy is bigger , but I was not toned to start with .

Two electives here, 19 months apart! Second was way easier because I knew what to expect and I recovered a lot faster. I think it’s because with the first, I took it easy but with my second and a toddler I had no choice but to bend down, lift heavy things and do way more exercise than recommended. However, I was surprised at how normal I felt after a week of having my second.

I had 2 both breech. 32 and 30 years ago now. They were both fine though more after pains with 2nd one.
Honestly much better than my friends who couldn't sit down for 6 weeks after delivery.

Yep, also had 2. Second was far easier as I didn't have blood loss to contend with, knew what to expect and accepted my limitations more (although to be far I found i had fewer limitations than my mum after her hysterectomy). Must you have an ELCS? Can you not try a VBAC if you want to avoid a CS?

Thankyou so much for all your replies its nice to hear positive stories as I cannot stop catastoihpsing.
I have thought about having a VBAC and it may be an option but birth as a whole worries me! When I had my first I suppose I had nothing to loose and was going in to the unknown.
I am scared of leaving my son behind if something goes wrong. These are the irrational thoughts I am having more and more.

I have had 3 c sections 2 classed as emergency due to pre eclamcia 1st one the same day 2nd my twins were on the list for first thing the next morning. I was already in hospital at the time. 3rd was elective for 39 weeks all 3 went smoothly. Recovery was good.