7 months pregnant and suddenly worried

[Nervousnelly13]

I’m 7 months pregnant, this is a longed for baby after a fair few losses in the past, it happened when we actually weren’t trying and was a surprise. I’ve been going through the motions however I’ve woken up this morning almost mourning what my life was and now oddly in panic mode , feeling abit regretful about my life changing as bad as that sounds. I can’t understand it as I know this is the baby I have wanted for years however I am suddenly so overwhelming sad about how different my life will be, is this normal?

Yes, perfectly normal in my case. I presumed it was hormones that also played a part, but as soon my my DC was born it was fine.

Yeah I think this is normal. Certainly was for me with all four of mine. It was that point of no return and realisation that life was changing and a baby had to get out of my body somehow.

Very normal, and unlike PP I had a really hard time that first year. I read that people are at high risk of PND/PNA after fertility problems, and I think part of that for me was exactly what you mention here, OP - the pressure to be so happy/grateful because you finally got what you'd longed for. I had lots of miscarriages and desperately longed for me baby, and everyone kept saying how happy I must be, and I felt like I could never admit how hard some of it was and how bad I actually felt.

The reality is, having a baby is a huge life change and parts of it are difficult, and that's the same no matter how much you wanted the baby or how hard the journey was. Give yourself lots of grace, OP, it's fine and normal to be terrified, regret it, have negative feelings, don't best yourself up about them as it makes things harder.

sounds Normal, now it’s more imminent. I was ok in pregnancy but I’ve struggled a lot since having my daughter (16 months now), with finding it hard/the life change, given I had a miscarriage with 1st pregnancy. Like I feel I should always be so grateful and happy, which I know isn’t realistic! Counselling has helped me to manage my feelings better. Having a baby is the ultimate life change in my experience, and it’s so hard. I wish people were more honest about that.

This is completely normal. I swing from feeling like a super amazing rock star mum filled with gratitude to have this amazing IVF baby that we worked so hard for and she’s the center of my world… to I dreadfully miss the days when I could eat my dinner hot, have the time to blow dry my hair, have a shower for as long as I like and not rush and have to prioritize washing my hair OR shaving my legs, & it’s the simple things like I wish I could just poop in peace. 🤦🏼‍♀️ but then I have a big sigh and look at my pride and joy and she smiles at me and everything is right in the world 💕 All of these things are a phase, I’m trying to ‘enjoy’/‘appreciate’ most of it as much as I can because it changes so quickly. Oh yeah, and the hormones don’t help either 🙄