Two under two…will I be okay?

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Just found out I’m pregnant with a little boy who just turned 9m old. He’s the light of my life. New babies due date will be November.

Just looking for a bit of reassurance, I guess…

here’s what I’m worried about:
Will my son feel as loved as he does now with another baby
Is pregnancy harder with a baby to look after
Am I ready for this?

husband and I are both in shock, I think.

woah, so lucky to be able to be pregnant but woah, scary…

Congratulations. What a lovely shock!
I had 2 under 3 which isn’t quite the same but you’ll manage because you’ll have to. Enjoy the ride.

Hi OP, I'm sure some others will be along with advice and experience but I just wanted to introduce myself as we are in a similar boat! DD is 11 months and I'm newly pregnant - EDD 27th Oct. We very much wanted a small age gap. I know it'll be full on and exhausting but it'll also be beautiful.

I had a very similar age gap, they are now 7 and 6.
A small age gap is great because you already in the thick of it with sleepless nights and nappies etc. I found the pregnancy hard because you can't really rest with another infant around 🤣 but the newborn stage was a breeze and the new baby slotted right in with us. My eldest wasnt old enough to understand or get jealous really.
And fast forward to now it's lovely they are so close in age, they do bicker but play lovely together.

Ive had 2 under two and they grew up so happy together. They always played together. Yes you will be okay Good luck and congratulations

Congratulations! Youll be fine. The first year will be hard and there will be moments of absolute overwhelm but a minute later a moment of beautiful magic. You will get through it - lower your standards and accept help. Its lovely watching 2 close in age grow up together.

It was fine for me too. Everyone was saying I was crazy / how hard it would be and tbh despite it being hard for many reasons, I found loads of up sides… my eldest doesn’t remember time before the little one, no jealousy, we felt like a little team, low standards as in no need to get an older one to school with a screaming baby we could just chill at home and muddle through if we were having a rough morning, played with similar things so easy to entertain, sometimes they napped at the same time so I could do a couple of jobs. Congratulations 😊

You will survive - and if anything it has its benefits as you are fully immersed in the ‘baby / toddler’ stage and personally I think it’s good to get that out of the way in one go! I went for it and had 3 under 4…

Thank you all for making me feel a little better. Think I’m in total shock tbh, but I’m over the moon, grateful, anxious, worried, delighted amazed…all the feelings!

My two are 15 months apart, now in their 20s and have always been close. The first couple of years were hard work but also a lot of fun. The eldest wasn’t jealous, I think they were too young, it was simply a case of oh a baby and life went on. Being so close in age meant they were mostly interested in the same things and activities suitable for one were also suitable for the other. Attention wasn’t divided as such because they were so close in age they generally engaged happily in the same activity.
I would suggest getting a travel cot so if you need to you can put the older child in there if you need to leave the room for a minute or do something which means you might not have your hands free to prevent an accident quickly. A two year old doesn’t really know the difference between handing a baby a toy and throwing it at them or they think the baby would like a biscuit and not really understand why no you can’t try and put a biscuit in the baby’s mouth.
You will make it work, it might be a bit of a blur some days but it will also be great.

Ah my little girl has just turned 11 months and I’m due 29th October (again, planned a small age gap). Expecting a year of carnage but then they can be best friends forever

Mine were 21 months apart intentionally and I honestly think I found it easier than going back to bottles and nappies after not having to deal with that for a while. They are both really close too which isn’t guaranteed but is probably more likely when they can do the same activities at the same time as they grow up.

Honestly I don’t know, I’m in the same boat 😆
I have an 8 year-old, a 7 month-old and I’m 11 weeks pregnant 🥲 we’re blaming the baby for sleeping through the night and allowing us alone time too early 😂
We’ll have a 13 month age gap and hoping to semi-wing it.
I’m still breastfeeding so the exhaustion has been a lot.
It’ll be a tough couple of years with newborn-toddler and another newborn-toddler but by 2028 we should be all good 👍🏻😂