Medical abortion experiences

[PockerMaus]

Hi, please no judgement here..

I have just found out I am pregnant, I think only a couple of weeks as I took a test last week and it was negative. I have an 8 month old son who was born via c section so I'm worried about having pregnancies so close together as well as coping with two so close together. I feel like I was just starting to feel a bit more like myself following my last pregnancy/post partum period so it feels a bit daunting to do it all over again so soon.

I haven't decided yet but my partner and I are looking at our options am with one being a medical abortion.

I definitely want more children in the future, it just feels too soon right now. But even in 6 months time I think I would feel happier about the idea and my body would have had more time to heal. My son took a long time t conceive (years) so it was a bit of a surprise this has happened now. I stopped BF last month so I think this may have had an impact.

I would really love to hear about experience from others that went through with a medical abortion and how it went? Especially someone that went on to have children in the future?

Thank you in advance ❤️

Do you mean medical as in taking the tablets? I can’t help in that regard as I opted for surgical but I can assure you that I had it with no issues and then went on to have two babies when I was ready to ❤️ zero judgement here

Thank you for your reply ❤️ 🙏🏼

Yes I assume due to the pregnancy being only a couple of weeks it would be a tablet method from what I have read online.

I'm so glad you went on to have your babies when you were ready ❤️

Hi lovely, I hope you’re doing okay. I’ve literally just completed an at-home medical termination myself (I live in Scotland), so the experience is very fresh for me.

I can’t really speak to the experience of having children afterwards, but I can share a bit about the process itself, particularly around pain and pain relief. If pain is something you’re worried about, the most important thing I’d say is that it varies hugely from person to person and also depends on your individual pain tolerance. For some people it really is like strong period cramps, but for others it can feel much closer to labour-type contractions.

I’m not saying that to scare you at all, but I do think women deserve to be properly informed. It’s often described as “just bad cramps”, which is true for some people but definitely not for everyone. Because of that, you are absolutely well within your rights to advocate for yourself and not take no for an answer if you’re asking for stronger pain relief. Don’t let any concerns you have about pain be dismissed by anyone, including medical professionals.

One thing I’d really recommend is getting on top of the pain relief before you take the second set of pills as well as after (the misoprostol, which is what actually causes the uterus to contract and pass the pregnancy). What helped me was staggering pain relief and anti-nausea medication in advance so it was already working in my system when the cramps started. For example, I took naproxen and paracetamol beforehand, and I had dihydrocodeine as a stronger option too. Even with those it was still very painful for me at points, so I feel very lucky I had the stronger pain relief available and I’m really glad I didn’t go without it. NSAIDS like naproxen are the best as they target the pain more specifically, so if you're able to take them, definitely do! (I'd personally reccomend something stronger than ibuprofen.)

Also, from everything I was told, having a medical abortion earlier in pregnancy is generally considered very safe and does not increase the risk of infertility later on. If anything, earlier treatment tends to mean fewer complications overall.

Whatever you decide, be gentle with yourself. Finding yourself pregnant again so soon after having a baby is a lot to process and my heart is really with you

How are you getting on @PockerMaus? Have you been able to come to a decision?

Thank you for checking in ❤️ I think now the shock has worn off a bit, I'm feeling a lot better. I'm waiting to speak to a consultant to see how it would look if we proceeded with the pregnancy which should hopefully be next week. I'm about 5 weeks at the moment so need to come to a decision sooner rather than later!

I'm still torn as I would love another baby. I just don't want to risk anything taking me away from my son ❤️