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Guard is up...trying not to believe...

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Lyndsey8880 · 09/01/2026 14:24

Hi all,

I am in shock and lost for words and very unsure whether to believe this could be happening or not.. my defence walls are officially up and standing tall!!

My backstory...
I had an ectopic back in 2014, emergency surgery and tube removal.
TTC for 6 years following, and ended up going for IVF.
First cycle took, but miscarried at 12w.
Second cycle took (not without problems - huge clot bleed at 6weeks. Daily bleeding for the following 4 weeks, and another huge clot bleed at 10 weeks) but now I have a beautiful nearly 4 year old daughter.
Been TTC for 3 years, with no luck..
Decided try IVF again last year. Had 23
eggs, 12 mature, 9 fertilised through ICSI,1 frozen at day 3, and 0 made it to day 5. I was heartbroken.
We transferred the day 3 in October, which failed.
I had given up and decided I was going toenjoy Christmas and New Year and rethink in 2026.
So that's what I did. I drunk, I didn't get enough sleep, I didn't eat healthily at all..

Fast forward to yesterday... period was a day late (I'm usually a day early) and decided I'd use one of my remaining tests for whatever reason... and there it was... the second line! Literally did not believe it.. waited a few hours and took a clearblue digital, and in black and white...pregnant, 1-2 weeks.
I then ordered some more and did another test this morning. Pregnant, 2-3 weeks.

I'm in shock, I dont believe it, and I can't understand it.

I'm just venting really, because my mind is all over the place. I want to be excited and happy, but my guard is up and I just don't know if I can believe it's real.... !!

Guard is up...trying not to believe...
Guard is up...trying not to believe...
Guard is up...trying not to believe...
OP posts:
mashandgravy · 09/01/2026 14:25

Congratulations! x

TheHumanRepresentative · 09/01/2026 14:32

Congratulations, OP!

What was your partner's reaction??

BudgetBuster · 09/01/2026 14:53

Oh this is fantastic news! I'm so happy for you.
I have heard of lots of people who decide to stop trying and enjoy life (food, drink etc) instead and Boom pregnant after years of struggles. Perhaps the lack of stress and thinking about it helps.

Lyndsey8880 · 09/01/2026 15:52

Thank you all! My partner is quietly excited. But thinking the same as me...just is this even real or actually happening?!
I have a GP appt Monday because of the previous ectopic, bloods 22nd Jan and probably an early scan around then sometime. Now the wait and see!
Xx

OP posts:
Rosesonroses · 09/01/2026 15:55

Aw congratulations OP! Wishing you a healthy and easy pregnancy x

aLogLady · 09/01/2026 16:05

This is excellent to read OP! I’m currently 16 weeks after a mmc, ectopic, and 5 rounds of ivf. I still can’t believe it most of the time.

one thing I will say, is that because of my history I have been looked after by the nhs like a (in my opinion) queen! I’m glad you’re getting an early scan, and I hope that good care continues :) they gave me fortnightly reassurance scans which helped enormously.

im so happy to read your news :) my advice is just to enjoy every day as it is ❤️

Scorpion84 · 09/01/2026 16:17

Amazing op
🤞🏻🤞🏻
great lines too
wishing you all the best

DoubleShotEspressox · 09/01/2026 16:22

I absolutely LOVE this post. Of course you’ll be anxious. But wishing you all the very best.

Whosthetabbynow · 09/01/2026 16:24

Congrats xx

Lyndsey8880 · 09/01/2026 18:45

Thank you all, means so much! ❤️
I would love to just sink into it, be happy, and enjoy every day but I'm a nervous wreck 😂 Xx

@aLogLady congratulations! Sounds like you've had a rough journey too! Xx

OP posts:
laserme · 09/01/2026 19:32

tentative congratulations @Lyndsey8880 I know how hard it is to go through what you have having been there many times myself including the ectopics and IVF - wishing you all the luck and hope this is an sticky one! Xx

Lyndsey8880 · 11/01/2026 20:55

Thank you!
I have an appt with the GP tomorrow. Not sure that's going to give me much reassurance but hoping for hcg bloods and a referral for an early scan Xx

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curliegirlie · 12/01/2026 08:48

Wow, @Lyndsey8880, I have everything crossed for you! I’m now nearly 38 weeks with #3 and still have many moments when I can’t believe it’s happening. #1 at aged 32, when I discovered I have thyroid issues, and DH’s sperm analysis came back completely crap, took 16 months (we were convinced we’d need ICSI, but I fell pregnant just after our first fertility appointment); #2 took a year. Then when my DDs were 3 and 6, I had a surprise pregnancy when being flaky taking the pill, had an early MC, spent 3 years TTC again properly, finally fell pregnant again, MC 3 years to the day of the first one at 6 weeks, was all ready to throw in the towel at the end of last summer (but didn’t believe anything would actually happen before then) and saw those 2 lines again in May, just 3 months later…

Good luck with this pregnancy. I really hope this is it for you, after all you have been through on this journey.

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