Pregnant with number 5 ….

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I guess I’m not really sure what I want from writing this but saying it out loud and getting it off my chest will help if anything.

so me and my husband have 4 children together and both have good jobs with a good support network. our eldest being 14 and youngest 7. We are both 34.

today I didn’t get my period and despite being what I thought was careful. I am pregnant. This was not part of our plans. And I’m not sure how I feel about it. We have 4 children and a very busy lifestyle (not forgetting our cockapoo puppy of course 🐶)

I haven’t told a single soul. Not even my husband as I think he will say he doesn’t want to continue with the pregnancy, but I’m not sure what I want. Well I think I do know what I want but I’m scared he won’t want the same. We’re pretty solid always have been and I don’t want anything to rock our boat.

im a nurse for a private company and only just started my new job about 2 months ago so also worried about maternity leave and how that will work (I know it’s early days but they’re genuine worries)

and then finally. BABY NUMBER 5!!! 🫣🫣🫣🫣 how do you even cope with 5! I live in a small 3 bedroom house which we transformed into a 4 bed so not sure where we even put a 5th person 🙈 it’s already a tight squeeze.

again I don’t know what I want from this post but saying it out loud makes it lighter. 💜💙

My fifth was “buy four, get one free”. I didn’t realise he was on the way till 5 months, and it was the easiest pregnancy and delivery - and he was without question the easiest baby.

What contraception was your husband using if he didn’t want another baby? Or did he have a vasectomy already scheduled?

I think your body, your choice - always - but you will need to consider the impact on your existing 4 children as well as on your marriage.

I hope you feel a little lighter for saying it out loud, OP. I can imagine this feels like a huge thing to have, for now, as a secret… full of contrasting emotions and big life implications. I’m sorry you don’t have anyone to talk about it with, and can understand you wanting to preserve a little space until you work out your feelings. I hope you can find the space you need to reflect and work through what it is you want to do. ❣️

I'm in a similar boat with an unexpected number 3 on the way. I appreciate 3 is not 5! But yeah, it isn't ideal.

We have a two bed house so all three kids will share (bunks definitely required). We will be able to add an extra bedroom on before the oldest gets to high school so I don't think this is a big issue. What sexes are your older four? If you and DH have one room and the baby has another, does it work out having two older kids in each of the remaining rooms?

Your DH does not get a say in terms of termination. The point he got a choice was when he had sex. Even if you were using contraception, men need to accept that if they have sex there is a risk of pregnancy. The choice is yours. Decide if it would be best if you make the choice before you tell him or after. Consider an early scan if having twins would change your decision.