I want a child but my bf doesn’t yet..

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I have 2 children with my ex boyfriend. 5 and 2 years. I’m getting super broody but my bf wants to wait which obviously we will but how do I make this feeling go away?:(((

In a relationship, pregnant, have baby, break up relationship, meet new man, move in, pregnant... all within 3 years? Can you really not see what is wrong with this OP?

So you been together just over a year? Grow up op and think about the kids you have already than a non existent one. At least give it 5 years so you know your relationship is somewhat secure.

I think to overcome the broody feeling you could let it motivate you with other things! Before I have my second child I want to have a certain amount of money saved, a more flexible + high paying job, be more fit/in a routine of working out. I also want to experience a lot of things with the baby I have already, because then it’ll never be just us again

5, and 2?
Think about it.

Having a child is a huge responsibility and it is not something to rush into. There are real risks to consider. A child could be born with a serious genetic condition inherited from the father or face other health challenges. The risk of autism and other developmental conditions increases the more children a parent has.

It also affects existing children especially very young ones. They may already be adjusting to a new stepdad and dealing with changes in their family. Bringing another baby into the home takes an enormous amount of time energy and attention. Young children need love care and stability and adding another baby can stretch a parent so thin that existing children may not get the support they deserve.

Please think carefully before deciding to have a child. It is not just about what you want it is about the life and wellbeing of everyone involved.

He sounds very reasonable

I totally get how you feel and it's hard when you feel broody but it's not an option. I've been in same boat but for different reasons. I think you can try to rationalise it - know it's not a practical idea - but you still feel this urge and it's hard.
That's not really advice but I just want to say I understand the overwhelming broodiness feeling.

Sounds like your boyfriend is being sensible and wants to save for a future to build something meaningful with you (potentially including another child). I totally get the urge to add another baby to your family, and hope it works out whatever you decide to do x

A 2 year old? So how long can you have been with your current bf?
Sounds like you're kids lives have been flipped upside down enough. Wait until they are older and more settled.
At least your boyfriend is sensible.

Stop being selfish and think about the kids you already have, please.