When people who haven’t checked in during your whole pregnancy…

[Sunshine8537]

Think it’s ok to have an opinion about your baby names…

Discuss…

Even if they have checked in during pregnancy then they don't get to have a say.

I suppose other people’s pregnancies aren’t so interesting, but it’s always fun thinking about names!

People have an opinion no matter what. Even those who have been close and involved will have opinions. Best to just block out the noise and focus on who and what matters to you.

People don’t check in because they don’t want to bother you, have their own stuff and they assume rightly or wrongly that you’ll let them know if you have issues. I’d listen to others’ opinions on names tbh, we dodged a very dodgy name we thought was cute but people would have made fun of his initials!!!

I don’t know what you mean by check in? My friends/family still spoke to me as normal being pregnant wasn’t any difference to my not being pregnant, anyone else is an acquaintance who I wouldn’t be discussing baby names with anyway. I don’t think I told any one until they were born.

Yeah some friends and family only check in when they want something.

Family who phone you when they want something and don’t even ask how things are…? Luckily their opinions don’t matter

Yes but does get to a point where you think…why should I waste my time. Relationships are two way.

What does one have to do with the other? Would you welcome opinions from people who have checked in?

The people who don’t check in express their opinion to you because they don’t care what you think about the not checking in and the fact that they’ve been rude about your name choice 🤷‍♀️

No the point I’m making is someone who classes themselves as family or close friends appear to think that expressing their opinion about something so important as a name choice is ok when they’ve had no involvement or thoughts during the pregnancy. It’s cheeky!

I'll take this and raise you a family member who at every opportunity during my pregnancy has told me she never wants kids and thinks women that do become boring shadows of their former selves... But then has the audacity to wade in with opinions on names, my decision to take a full year of mat leave, and also thinks we should rehome our beloved pet dog (who we are doing all sorts of training and management stuff with to prep him way ahead of time for baby's arrival).