Nearly 8 pregnant and have a 2 year old and feel like I’m struggling.

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Hiya, i am currently nearly 8 months pregnant and have a 2 year old. I have found I am struggling a lot this time round. Mainly with my mental health. I feel so overwhelmed and cry most days. I have been to the doctor who has referred me to the antenatal team and I’m waiting for a call. Some days I feel ok and think I’ve got this and other days I can just cry all day and anything will upset me or I just feel so angry. I didn’t have this as bad with my first so believe it’s probably burn out as well. Is anyone else experiencing this? I just feel I want someone to give me a hug! X I am also an older mum at 42 and my 2 year old is on the really energetic scale compared to some other 2 year olds I’ve seen.

Sorry you are going through a hard time right now.

Be easy on yourself and take each day as it comes. It can feel never ending, but it does get easier.

Thank you so much! That’s really kind of you to say. I just keep thinking If I’m like this now how will I cope but again I think my mindset right now isn’t helping. X

Pregnant with a toddler is 10000% worse than a toddler and newborn. I was so so so done with it by the time my second arrived. It's really really hard. Give yourself some grace, let some things slip, and hopefully when baby arrives you'll feel much better! As soon as mine were out and all my pregnancy symptoms disappeared life felt much more manageable.

I could’ve written this myself. I’m 33 weeks and my little boy was 2 yesterday. I’m 6 months away from 40.

EVERYTHING annoys me. I save all my tolerance for my little boy, so my other half suffers sadly. I lost it yesterday as they didn’t shut the cutlery drawer properly for the third time that day.

their breathing, chewing… existing… is annoying.

I too have suffered mentally and it is really hard, the above sounds flippant but I understand and empathise with the crying and the sadness. What feels like should be a magical time, I find myself wishing it away.

all the best OP, and hope you get that call and some support soon. Xx

Agree with above poster I am 38 weeks with a 19 month old and this pregnancy has been so tough. I’ve found it the physical exhaustion and tiredness makes me feel much more emotional. Do you have a good support network around you? Is there anyone that can take your 2 year old for a bit to give you a break?

It’s so refreshing to know this! I just really want ti feel normal again! I’m glad it was all good when the baby arrived. Xx

100% this. I was also very anxious in my second pregnancy, I was under the mental health team doing talking therapies (which did help). After the baby arrived I felt so so much better in every respect. You'll get there, take care of yourself OP x

For what it’s worth I found being pregnant with a toddler much worse than having a newborn and a toddler in many ways.