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Scared of miscarrying again

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Louieloo · 06/12/2025 19:49

This is my third pregnancy. The previous pregnancies resulted in miscarriage one at 6 weeks and the other at 8 weeks. I am so scared of this happening again and struggling to cope with my anxiety. I really didn’t think it would be this hard! I’m scared there is something wrong with me that is causing it. Anyone have positive outcomes, who have been in the same position?

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AiRoo · 06/12/2025 22:05

Hi, sorry about your losses and congratulations on your new pregnancy.

I had a loss last December at 6 weeks and one in March this year at 8 weeks, so similar to yourself.

i am now 33 weeks with a little girl. I was the same as you, terrified, anxious, convinced that history would repeat itself.

im not going to lie to you, its been hard. My personal experience has indeed been difficult. I got a lot of “when you get to 12 weeks you’ll relax”, that got repeated at 20 weeks because I was still convinced she was was going to die, but that only increased as time went on as the early losses impacted me enough, a later loss would not be survivable to me.

I genuinely think I relaxed at about 26/28 weeks, but still won’t believe it’s real until I hold her.

communicate A LOT. Tell anyone and everyone who will listen about how you’re feeling. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel, or when you’ll start to enjoy your pregnancy. It’s your journey and yours alone.
reach out to perinatal mental health if needed and do so early as wait times can be long.

don’t feel guilty for not enjoying it as much/as early/as fully as you feel you should. Again personally for me, I can’t wait for it to be over. I’m crippled with pelvic girdle pain which isn’t helping, but besides that, I appreciate I’m blessed, but it has been hard.

I wish you all the best OP, I’m sure everything will work out this time and you’ll get your rainbow, 🌈 like hopefully I’ll be getting mine in 7ish weeks!

Take care xx

Superscientist · 06/12/2025 22:30

I started trying to conceive my second in April last year. I conceived quickly but started bleeding at 10 weeks and miscarried a few days later. I conceived again a few months later. I was having scans at the EPU which showed that this pregnancy was behind and then ended. I miscarried at 10 weeks, although the pregnancy never got past 6 weeks gestation which was probably similar with the first pregnancy too. I conceived a few weeks later but was nearly 8 weeks when I found out as didn't have a period in between. I had a scan at the epu the next week and all looked good. They started me on progesterone and this pregnancy stuck. He's now 3months!
I really struggled with believing it was real. I bought one vest ahead of time and it was only when the obstetrician said I'd be induced the following week that I ordered any new clothes. The induction got brought forward and I picked up the newborn clothes on the drive to the hospital!

Janefx40 · 06/12/2025 22:38

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s just really hard after a loss because you already know that the worst can happen so it’s very hard to just trust in it. There is no magic answer - I think I just made myself as comfy as possible and rode it out. There are many of us who have gone on to have successful pregnancies after a loss. There is a book you can get - a kind of diary that you can fill in each day with ideas and meditations etc and it’s designed for women who are pregnant after a loss. It’s called Pregnancy After Loss. It wasn’t quite my thing but lots of women love it and you may find it helpful. Sending love x

LER2023 · 07/12/2025 00:25

Ive had 3 miscarriages, all within the 6 week mark. I was adament there was something wrong with me, i demanded a full blood count from the doctors as the wait for the miscarriage clinic was almost a year and i wanted answers sooner. As i didnt want to be an 'old parent' i wouldnt be old, id have been 30, but in my head, when you see people at 16 having babies i didnt want to be the old parent at school gates waiting for my child😅 i got in my own head way too much also my OH mentioned that when hes 40 he doesnt want any children. So if it didnt happen before he was 40 then thats it for him and i didnt want that to happen.

I finally got to the miscarriage clinic and had my first testing done (the exact same as what i already demanded to be done just done at different times eg. The day of my period id have a certain test done, then 4 days on my period id have another test done ect.)
I was ready to find out that the problem is me, i couldnt carry babies past a certain week and if it wasnt me it was my OH that we was also working on getting checked out. We was waiting for my test results to come back.

Before my test results could come back, i got a positive test.

I asked the question what happens if i got pregnant again for the 4th time. My consultant said 'you shouldnt be thinking of getting pregnant. You shouldnt get pregnant and you shouldnt try' but we'd been trying for almost a year! We was prescribed progesterone pessaries.
I didnt have much hope, i was crying majority of the time because i didnt think it would work.

Im now sat on my sofa with my sleepy baby boy on my chest waiting for him to settle enough to sleep the rest of the night and hes 2 weeks old.

Pregnancy after loss is SUCH a difficult time that i dont think many people realise how hard it is.
You have severe anxiety about losing another baby thats desperately wanted and you are scared each time you go to the toilet.
You overthink every little pain and cramping. Its understandable.
Its painful physically, mentally and emotionally going through a loss, let alone multiple.

If you can please see a private GP and ask for some progesterone pessaries.
I wouldnt be here holding my baby boy if it wasnt for progesterone.

I hope this is a sticky baby for you! Sending you so much love at this tough time! X

bk1981 · 07/12/2025 15:04

I'm currently pregnant after three miscarriages this year. You are not alone in your anxiety but I have no advice on how to make things better.

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Louieloo · 07/12/2025 19:20

LER2023 · 07/12/2025 00:25

Ive had 3 miscarriages, all within the 6 week mark. I was adament there was something wrong with me, i demanded a full blood count from the doctors as the wait for the miscarriage clinic was almost a year and i wanted answers sooner. As i didnt want to be an 'old parent' i wouldnt be old, id have been 30, but in my head, when you see people at 16 having babies i didnt want to be the old parent at school gates waiting for my child😅 i got in my own head way too much also my OH mentioned that when hes 40 he doesnt want any children. So if it didnt happen before he was 40 then thats it for him and i didnt want that to happen.

I finally got to the miscarriage clinic and had my first testing done (the exact same as what i already demanded to be done just done at different times eg. The day of my period id have a certain test done, then 4 days on my period id have another test done ect.)
I was ready to find out that the problem is me, i couldnt carry babies past a certain week and if it wasnt me it was my OH that we was also working on getting checked out. We was waiting for my test results to come back.

Before my test results could come back, i got a positive test.

I asked the question what happens if i got pregnant again for the 4th time. My consultant said 'you shouldnt be thinking of getting pregnant. You shouldnt get pregnant and you shouldnt try' but we'd been trying for almost a year! We was prescribed progesterone pessaries.
I didnt have much hope, i was crying majority of the time because i didnt think it would work.

Im now sat on my sofa with my sleepy baby boy on my chest waiting for him to settle enough to sleep the rest of the night and hes 2 weeks old.

Pregnancy after loss is SUCH a difficult time that i dont think many people realise how hard it is.
You have severe anxiety about losing another baby thats desperately wanted and you are scared each time you go to the toilet.
You overthink every little pain and cramping. Its understandable.
Its painful physically, mentally and emotionally going through a loss, let alone multiple.

If you can please see a private GP and ask for some progesterone pessaries.
I wouldnt be here holding my baby boy if it wasnt for progesterone.

I hope this is a sticky baby for you! Sending you so much love at this tough time! X

Thank you so much and congratulations. I think this time I’m having a 6 week scan and if all is good, my gp will prescribe me aspirin. I’m happy it all worked out for you in the end and I am sorry for your losses xx

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Louieloo · 07/12/2025 19:23

AiRoo · 06/12/2025 22:05

Hi, sorry about your losses and congratulations on your new pregnancy.

I had a loss last December at 6 weeks and one in March this year at 8 weeks, so similar to yourself.

i am now 33 weeks with a little girl. I was the same as you, terrified, anxious, convinced that history would repeat itself.

im not going to lie to you, its been hard. My personal experience has indeed been difficult. I got a lot of “when you get to 12 weeks you’ll relax”, that got repeated at 20 weeks because I was still convinced she was was going to die, but that only increased as time went on as the early losses impacted me enough, a later loss would not be survivable to me.

I genuinely think I relaxed at about 26/28 weeks, but still won’t believe it’s real until I hold her.

communicate A LOT. Tell anyone and everyone who will listen about how you’re feeling. Don’t let anyone tell you how you should feel, or when you’ll start to enjoy your pregnancy. It’s your journey and yours alone.
reach out to perinatal mental health if needed and do so early as wait times can be long.

don’t feel guilty for not enjoying it as much/as early/as fully as you feel you should. Again personally for me, I can’t wait for it to be over. I’m crippled with pelvic girdle pain which isn’t helping, but besides that, I appreciate I’m blessed, but it has been hard.

I wish you all the best OP, I’m sure everything will work out this time and you’ll get your rainbow, 🌈 like hopefully I’ll be getting mine in 7ish weeks!

Take care xx

Edited

Aww that’s amazing news. Thank you for replying to my post it’s made me relax a little bit for now. I think I just need to try and take everyday, as it comes and not dwell on the past. It’s so hard though!

aww I bet you can’t wait. I’m glad it worked out for you xx

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HollyGolightly4 · 07/12/2025 19:27

The early pregnancy unit at my local hospital prescribed me progesterone - I'm 15 weeks now and v anxious but trying my hardest to overcome.

Curiousrobin · 07/12/2025 19:38

I'm in a similar situation. We already have a son, who came along no trouble. But since trying for our second, I've had 2 miscarriages and a chemical pregnancy. I'm now 8 weeks pregnant again and pretty anxious it'll happen again. I'm taking low dose aspirin (something I have decided to do myself, despite nobody recommending it.. but i just gotta try something!). I had a scan at 7+4 and all looked good so far - heartbeat seen and meaduirng 2 days ahead.

Wishing you the best of luck! It's a rubbish club to be a part of. How far along are you?

JaneSmith8 · 07/12/2025 19:55

I had 3 miscarriages before I got my son this year. As I was under the recurrent miscarriage clinic I had bi-weekly scans and to all of them I attended convinced that it was not viable, the same at the 12w scan and then at the 20w scan I was convinced there was something wrong with him and that I would have to terminate (I cried at all the scans lol).
To me, feeling his kicks is what helped me relax; but still, I didn't believe this was going to end well until he was born and even then for a few months I would listen to his breathing while he was sleeping just to make sure that he was still alive.
Pregnancy after multiple miscarriages is hard, you don't enjoy it as much, but be gentle and take it day by day - good luck.

Ladyinpink1 · 07/12/2025 21:07

I'm sorry for your loss. More than one in a row is very difficult because it makes you feel it's a pattern and something could be wrong.

I had 2 dc with no issues at all then I had 2 mmc, both had stopped growing at 8/9 weeks, but i didnt find out until later, this gave me such a fear that something must be wrong because they happened at the same time ... I had all of my recurrant miscarriage tests and everything came back normal, long story short, I am now almost 19 weeks pregnant.

I'm still really quite anxious and still can't really believe it. Because of my previous losses I recieved scans every 2 weeks from the epu which were very helpful, especially the one at the same time of the previous losses x

Wherestheteenguide · 07/12/2025 21:49

I'm in the same position. I'm fortunate to have children but the last two pregnancies I've miscarried around the 6 week mark. Age is not on my side either so I'm not expecting to get far with this one. But it's difficult - I hate the feeling of not knowing more than anything.

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