Severe sickness and I feel like nobody is listening

[Pregnantera]

I started with sickness in the middle of September and it’s still ongoing. I’m sick at least once every day and up to 5 times. I’ve gone off so much food and drinks I feel stuck for what to try. I’m dizzy and tired everyday.
I’ve been to the doctors multiple times to be told it’s normal and my hormones are doing what they need to do. I have Cyclizine and I reckon my body is used to it now so having no effect at all. I’m told there is nothing stronger that is safe for my baby. Because they won’t listen to me I have been forcing myself to work a full time job and trying to plaster a brave face on it all. Only to find that the best I am doing is not enough.
But I am at breaking point now, I can’t get out of bed at all today, I have no fight left. I have nowhere left to turn and I’m so miserable. I don’t know that I can survive to 40 weeks. I just need someone to listen to me and to tell me what to do.

@Iwashereyouarethere I am getting the anxiety and panic attacks too, it’s truly terrifying when it happens. And I hear you when you say people don’t listen or don’t understand what it is you are going through. It’s so isolating as well which I am sure doesn’t help with the panic attacks and anxiety. I felt like it made a difference today having my husband stand there and tell them how badly I have been suffering. It shouldn’t be like that. They should have listened to me before now.
I genuinely am so sorry for what you have been through and I hope that you get your baby and the pregnancy care that you deserve!

@Nomnomnew I am waiting for pregnancy sickness support to contact me. I’m hoping I am on the right path now and can start to enjoy this pregnancy.

Is it the nausea rather than the vomiting that is affecting you so badly? Vomiting 1-5 times a day is hideous, and what I had with DD from weeks 7 to 25, but I had full blown HG with DS and vomited up to 20 times a day and have to be triply medicated. I spent so long lying down signed off that my hair rubbed off on one side.

The issue is that while the nausea is awful, being sick once some days means you’re keeping food and fluid down and that’s the priority - they only really medicate heavily if you’re in danger of dehydration and so on, rather than for ‘feeling nauseated’ if that makes sense.

I have sympathy, it’s bloody awful.

I found this too - first pregnancy it was full on vomiting all the time, if I did literally anything at all except lie still in a dark room. Even looking at my phone or having a conversation with someone would make me sick. BUT each time I was sick I’d have a window of a few minutes where I could eat or drink something and lie back down, and like that I was just about able to eat something.

Second pregnancy I got the actual sickness medicated and controlled relatively early, and it was ‘just’ nausea but that felt more debilitating in some ways because it was nausea like I was always on the cusp of being sick but with none of the relief of actually being sick.

It’s impossible for people to comprehend unless they experience it either themselves or via a very close friend or relative. It’s awful. OP I also follow Em Clarkson on Instagram, she documented her HG story very honestly and I found that a comfort.

Your GP sounds pathetic. There are so many options beyond cyclizine. Definitely contact pregnancy sickness support as they are amazing at helping you understand your options.

There is no shame in struggling - I was incapacitated for the first 16 weeks of both my pregnancies and needed a cocktail of medications and sick leave to make it through. I’ve never felt so horrendous in all my life. It was worth it, but please get the help you’re entitled to! Xonvea in particular was helpful for me.