When/how did you tell your partner after an early bfp?

[givingitanothergo]

I tested on 9dpo and got faint lines on 2 different tests, then 10dpo maybe ever so slightly darker but still faint.
today I’m 11dpo and had a much better line on a wondfo tonight, I know it’s still really early but hopefully things are and will move in a positive direction. 🤞

The only problem is I feel I’m living this alone. I’ve not told my husband yet. With our last baby I got a positive at 10dpo (I tested early because of the extreme symptoms I was having) I told him on 11dpo because it was Father’s Day (🙃), then I bled the next day. We found out a few weeks later the bleeding was because we were losing a twin but at the time we thought it was the whole pregnancy.

He’s never understood the need to test early because of the whole anything can happen and it’s better to not know but again I was having symptoms again and just felt like I knew I was pregnant.

I was going to wait until I’ve actually missed my period because I’m scared of how he’ll react to me being a crazy person with early testing but I don’t know if I can keep this to myself that long without exploding. 😂

what did others do? Do you wait til missed period or just tell your partner?
my lines before today were faint and he’d probably say it’s nothing but the one tonight was way more obvious !

I told him as soon as I knew. But by tell, I mean threw the digital test at him as he woke up which he fumbled and dropped, so that it was then flashing "pregnant/not pregnant" 😂 so not the best announcement. For me, if I have the information I'll share it.

I told him as soon as I knew both times.

immediately..he was as excited as me.

I tested early and told him the same day both times. I was too excited not to.

As soon as I found out, both times.

As soon as I had tested. You’re in it together, for better or worse, whatever the outcome. For us, we had a successful pregnancy, a miscarriage and then another successful pregnancy. All 3 times I tested on the first day of my missed period.

I think holding it all inside must be incredibly hard! It’s unfair of him to say early testing is silly. You know you’re own body and as soon as you know you are ‘trying’ there is no such thing as just forgetting about it, in my experience.

This is an easy one to deal with! You could just say to him, I really feel like I’m pregnant - if I took a test would you want to know the result? Or would you want to wait until I’ve missed a period?

BTW you’re not a crazy person early testing. It’s ok to want to know what’s going on inside your own body. He’s trying to protect his and your feelings by not finding out ‘too’ early. It’s easier for him to say not to test - he’s not the one getting the symptoms or preparing his brain and body to go through a nine month pregnancy!

I told my husband right away the first time, the second time he was there when I tested so knew at the same time as me.

Thank you all!

I was thinking of telling him tonight after he got the toddler to sleep so we can actually talk but I think I might do it tomorrow night now, after I’ve done a clear blue early test (as long as the line looks good?) so it’s a bit more of a real test? . I don’t know! 😂

earlier today he made a comment about not wanting to lose weight until we’re done having kids - because our 2 loved to sleep on his big dad belly when they were really little 😂

but then he also made a comment about 2 under 2 being hard (we have a toddler that’s 3 in January and a 10month old)

we both knew there was always a chance pregnancy could happen but I think because it took 10years for our first, then 16months for our second I don’t think either of us would really expect to be only 7 cycles in and be here already. Not saying it’s an unwanted baby just a lot going on. We’ve always said if it happened we’d make it work since we know the risks. But I am a little scared of stressing him out as well 😭

Alright I just did it 😂

I’m just glad it’s finally out !

After 8 months of fertility treatment & surgery to fall I dreamt up many ways to tell DH

In the end when I tested at 2am because I needed to know it was negative so could kill the tiny flare of hope that had ignited, I got dressed and drove to my husbands work and showed him the test. He (and his colleague) thought someone had died. I thrust the test at him and begged him to tell me I was seeing what I thought I was. He was so confused and then relieved and then excited