Jealousy third trimester

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Is this normal? I am in the third trimester now and don’t have to long to go, my husband keeps talking about looking after the baby pushing the pram etc but it makes me really jealous at the thought of it. He has ADHD and can be very immature and irresponsible so it worries me for how he is going to look after this baby, he does not respect mine or his families boundaries and just does what he thinks is right and I’m worried he will also do this with our child

Why did you have a child with him if you have these concerns would be my first question.

A bit late to worry about that now!

No, I don't think that's normal to be jealous of your husband taking care of your shared baby. It is his baby too and it's a good thing that he's excited to be a father.

Can you give some examples of him being irresponsible/not respecting boundaries?

Hang on, you’re having a baby with your husband, but the thought of him doing any childcare for his own child is making you ‘jealous’?

This baby is 50% you 50% your husband. He is entitled to feel excited at the prospect of looking after his own child.
This isn’t some shiny new toy that you don’t want to share it is your joint child.

No, I’m really looking forward to seeing my partner bonding and looking after his baby.

I have adhd myself and think that is a bit of silly comment to make 🤣 I can be immature but that doesn’t make me a rubbish mum.

I also work with children and to be honest adhd is great for children. It makes us fun and silly which children love. We also love deeply and care a lot!!

This. WTF? And you describe HIM as immature??

Is jealous the right word here? I can’t even imagine how you’d feel ‘jealous’ about your husband caring for his baby? Do you want to keep the baby all to yourself?

The third trimester is wild! You will feel better about this once the baby is out!

Have you told your husband what you think of him? I'm more worried that you married a man and are having a child with him when you think so little of him... you're worried about pushing his baby in a pram?

No, this is not normal at all.

My husband has ADHD and whilst he doesn't do everything exactly as I would... he still gets it done and is a very capable parent. I never once considered ADHD when I was expecting. For example; changing nappies, I like to have everything in place (wipes, nappy, spare vest closeby) before I start but he'll just whip the nappy off and then realise the wipes are elsewhere. It's messier definitely but the nappy still gets changed and my husband cleans up any potential mess. It certainly isn't dangerous!

And yes I agree... He's the fun parent 😂

I think this is all the hormones talking. They can make you very protective which is natural and I understand even if others on here apparantly can't. Once baby is here, he/she will be with you most of the time anyway I'd imagine especially if breastfeeding. Then you might feel some relief over your husband watching baby sometimes.