Please help. 4th pregnancy 4th section.

[Notmeagain24]

Pretty much as the title says really. I have 3 children - 7,3, 18 months. All three are healthy although my middle one is potentially on the autistic spectrum, although not significantly

All three were delivered by c section. The only complication I had was a bleed and infection after my second - I think I lost 1L of blood and needed antibiotics for retained tissue. My third section was fine. I do know now I have very low iron levels currently (25) so I need to speak to my midwife about that.

Thing is, I'm absolutely terrified on a 4th section. I'm 36. What if I have a baby that isn't healthy at my age? What about all the horror stories of 4th sections? Does anyone have any advice or experience?

I've booked a call with an abortion clinic next week but I'm not entirely sure I can go through with it. My husband wouldn't support an abortion so I couldn't tell him! I don't know if I could live with that either. Any words of kindness or experience appreciated.

I think you should talk to a doctor and also not look at Internet forums. Plus 36 - doesn't seem old at all. ----

Blood loss of up to a litre is normal for a C section so I wouldn't be unduly concerned about that aspect. You haven't actually said if you want a fourth child or not, which seems quite telling...

Ok firstly 36 isn’t old for a baby, my consultant said that they don’t really know worry about age until 40+ and even then healthy pregnancies are expected. Nothing changes based on age.

Abortion is up to you and you only really you need to carry the baby and then deliver and look after - maybe see if you can talk to someone like a friend or family member as well as the clinic?

4th c section isn’t unreasonable as a concept but we have no idea of your medical history so you need to discuss that with your midwife and consultant early on.

I don't know if I really want another baby... but I said that about my 2nd and 3rd too, even going as far as to contact an abortion clinic with my 3rd and I've always felt guilty about it as they are true blessings. I wonder if i go ahead, if I'll feel the same? But third section didn't seem as scary and I just don't know. I've tried to contact my midwife all day but she's not been answering her phone. I need to get in touch with her and be insistent that I speak with someone, I need some help about my past sections and what the surgeon said to make an informed decision.

How many weeks are you? Its fine to feel this way it can be scary. I'd imagine if there were concerns they would of told you not to get pregnant again.

Im 34 and im currently 28 weeks pregnant. Will be my 4th c section and I plan to get sterilised this time around. I get anxiety thinking about it especially at the beginning. I have a 10, 7 and 2 year old.

IV had 5 sections 06 08 2010 2015 and 2016

@Motherofthreewildboys - I'm only 4 weeks, I've only just missed a period so I know it's super early and anything can happen. Have they kept a closer eye on you with it being your 4th section this time?

with my third, they asked whether I was going to have anymore and I said 'no' but they didn't say anything else. I'd like to think they would've warned me if things looked bad in there last time but I'm not sure.

@kittyfairy66 - that makes me feel better to know! Did they all progress similarly?

thank you all xxx

I've had 4 c sections. Currently 7 weeks pregnant with my 5th!

#4 went really well. They took their time with the surgery because they have to be careful with scar tissue but all went really smoothly no issues. My scar didn't heal as well but I'm bigger then I used to be so think it was just because of my overhang.

@Salamander91 - congratulations on baby 5! I never imagined myself with 1 baby when I was younger, never mind 4. I've found so much comfort in the experience of you ladies. Thank you so much for sharing. I appreciate you all taking the time xxx