Pregnancy Scan Anxiety

[AliAllMe]

I have a early scan on Wednesday. I'll be around 7 weeks. I've previously had 2 miscarriage and it's been a long wait time between each pregnancy due to a number of issues that I have. I was actually due to have a procedure to see what's going on.

By this point previously I'd had the miscarriages, but had bleeding which led up to both. I'm just so anxious about going and being told there's no heartbeat, or nothing there and it's a missed miscarriage.

I wouldn't say I have any strong pregnancy symptoms apart from a bit of mild nausea from time to time.

Does anyone have any success stories they can share, or how to combat the anxiety?

To be honest it's no different to dealing with any anxiety.
Step one - identify if there's anything you can actually do to solve or improve the thing you're anxious about (in this case I guess there isn't).
Step two - accept you can't change it, and decide to do your best to not ruin the hours/days between now and then with worry. Keep busy! Arrange to meet a friend, go for a bike ride, go to the gym, crochet a hat, do a crossword, whatever. Every time the worry creeps in, reject it, and pick up the crochet hook!

ETA I don't mean anxiety as in the actual mental health condition. Obviously if you have that I'm sure you already have coping mechanisms. I meant normal anxious thoughts.

I had 2 missed miscarriages so know the anxiety. With my youngest I also had an early scan which placed me at 5 weeks when I should have been between 5 weeks 4 days and 7 weeks (needed it to date pregnancy) they booked my 12 week and there he was measuring 12weeks 4 days! other than being a little more hungry and my feet got blistered by my “comfy” trainers I had no symptoms. I’ve never been sick with any of my pregnancies or had masses of symptoms so I would worry too much.

i have my fingers crossed baby is okay in there and you are one of the lucky ones like me who doesn’t have the horrid sickness

in terms of battling the anxiety other than knowing you can’t really change the outcome there is absolutely nothing that helped me. I was literally counting days

Thanks both. That's good advice. I'm generally not an anxious person so it's just this situation that's brought it on. I know I can't change the outcome of tomorrow. I guess it's just being reminded of my previous times at the hospital.

I'm really hoping for the best tomorrow, as we never expected to get pregnant again naturally as I have pcos, Bicornuate uterus, fluid in a tube, and my age working against me. So was expecting to have to go down the IVF route. I'm really hoping this was my body saying 'nope, we don't need to do that' we can have some luck on our own.

I'll drop a message when I've had the scan.

Good luck!

Ive had 3 missed miscarriages, the anxiety with every scan will be there and its completely normal.

Try and stay calm (i know easier said than done)
Try and find things you enjoy, watching a series or a few films.
Give yourself a break, sometimes you need time to just sit back and breathe!

Theres going to be the overall stress and anxiety there and theres nothing you can do to fix anything, just have plenty of hope.

I got pregnant again, after nearly a year of trying and i had a scan at 7 weeks, i didnt have any emotion towards having the scan after 3 miscarriages and then she said baby had a heartbeat which was our first heartbeat in 4 pregnancies.

Ive been for a sweep today at 39+2 and im now waiting for him to make an appearence!

You'll get your rainbow baby and your most amazing pregnancy! You just have to be strong!😊

Fyi just to add, i didnt have any symptoms apart from being a little more tired than usual, but i was working full time and it was coming to easter which was a massively busy time for us at work so i was tired and i had 3 days of sickness after the scan! It was like my brain and body registered i was pregnant!

Good luck! X

Thank you!

That gives me so much hope that you've had a smooth pregnancy and baby is nearly here! Congratulations. I can only hope we have the same outcome as you this time.

Best of luck with the coming days! X

Honestly no tips but can sympathise with how you are feeling.

You just somehow cope and get through the scan and the wait.

Sending lots of love and luck for your scan xxx

Also forgot to say expected to lose my baby after having a twin miscarriage but turned up to the scan expecting the worse to see a little baby with a heartbeat. He is 3 now x

Thanks so much.

Sorry to hear about your loss, but it's great to hear everything worked out for you and you have a lovely 3 year old. X

Hi @AliAllMe

I'm terribly sorry to hear of your previous losses. It's so so tough to deal with and every new pregnancy just resurfaces the emotions and worries.

Obviously you know that there is nothing you can do to actually impact what will happen... but I used to find things like yoga / reflexology helped me to forget about my worries for half an hour and focus on distressing.

For a reassuring story... I have had 3 miscarriages and one TFMR consecutively in the past. I am currently 9 weeks pregnant and cuddling my 20 month old in bed. All my losses were similar to yours, onset of bleeding (at 5, 6 and 7 weeks). I never made it to my early scans on those pregnancies. On my 20 month old I had a scan at 6w4d and most recently I had a scan at 6w1d both looking healthy.

The only thing I have done differently is I was prescribed progesterone pessaries to stop my cervix dialling prematurely. No idea if they've helped or if it was just my time to become a mother.

Best of luck tomorrow x

So I had a scan and was glad the pregnancy wasn't ectopic. They could see the sac, but because I have a Bicornuate uterus and it had implanted quite low down it was difficult for the tech to get a clear image, it took a while.

Initially he though it was empty but then got a clearer picture and could see the fetal pole, and eventually got it into a position to see a slow heartbeat, which he said could be because it's only just started. So all quite positive, but he said it's a delicate time and because of where's it's implanted just to be careful what I'm doing.

They've booked me in for another scan in 2 weeks time so I can only hope things remain normal and I don't have any bleeding between now and then. An anxious few weeks ahead, but will try and be positive.