Hi
I had an ectopic pregnancy 10 months ago which led to surgery and a tube removal.
then 6 months later I had a late miscarriage which my body didn’t recognise at 16 weeks and had to be induced, 4 days later I went back in for placenta retention which also resulted in emergency surgery.
it was my third consecutive loss.
my body has been through alot as you can imagine.
i am grateful and lucky as I have 2 beautiful daughters aged 3.5 yrs and a 22 month old.
since my loss, me and DH have been taking precautions when intimate but my period was late. Woke up feeling sick today so I checked and I’m pregnant. Fear and anxiety took over me.
me and DH had a petty argument last night but nonetheless when I found out; I ran into the bathroom where he www and told him. His immediate reaction threw me off as he told me to get rid of it??
that’s not an option and I’m shocked he suggested it as one. A) it’s against my religion b)Iv experienced 4 losses overall , how can I then be responsible for another life lost c) I refuse to put my body through that. D) its just morally wrong
he then went to work and we hadn’t really spoken much , he did text and say he wa shocked and we just won’t tell anyone. Because both our families were very openly strict when saying my body needs to rest and I cannot get pregnant for atleast another year because I need to recover. Which is true.
he then decided to get into it about last night and just escalated the argument and is being absolutely awful towards me knowing I found out I was pregnant today and that I’m stressed.
honestly I don’t know what to do. I feel so down in the dumps, I don’t know if it’s the pregnancy of anxiety making me feel sick and I feel guilt cos Iv hardly eaten but I genuinely can’t.
please no judgemental comments because I genuinely was taking precautions not to get pregnant.
if you have read all of this, thank you I appreciate it because I really would love some support. I didn’t know where else to turn.