An area for those who are pregnant but don’t have family in their lives 🫂

[MermaidG]

Evening MN

First time poster! Yesterday 22/10/25 I found out I was pregnant- YAY. We’ve been trying for a couple months and couldn't be happier. Relationship is great I feel very supported. We are keeping the pregnancy private from others until we have had a scan.

I know these things are usually kept entirely private until things are further along, but I would really love someone to talk to about things!

Im in my twenties and my mum passed away last year, following a long battle with cancer, she would be here for me right now and I am missing her. My father is estranged (lives abroad) and is knob anyway! No other direct relatives around.

So I guess I am starting this thread for all those out there who dont have family in their lives and want somewhere to talk! I am here for you guys

side note- friends are amazing but not in the baby space, in-laws are lovely but I dont completely open up to them I guess

love Mermaid x

I’m not pregnant (have 2 DC already!) but just wanted to congratulate you and bump this as I think it’s an amazing thread for people in a similar situation. I’m sorry to hear about your mum. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy. Being a mum is the best thing in the world and I’m sure you’ll do a great job xx

Hi, aaaww🥰 so exciting!

Thank you for your kind words. I hope anyone that needs it finds their way here, but always nice to hear from anyone
xxx

Hi, I think I almost fit into this category! I haven't had a relationship with my mother in 10 years (due to her abusive nature) and I'm an only child. I do have a good relationship with my dad but I can't say he's involved/supportive with the pregnancy but that's just men really!
Luckily I have a great partner and my daughter who's 16 I'm very close with. But it is hard not having any female relatives to be there for me, I was very close to my grandma but she passed away 2 years ago 😞 and unfortunately due to her leaving everything to me in her will ( her daughters - my mum and Aunt didn't really have a relationship with her) my Aunt is now not speaking to me 🙄 It's a very complex situation and has been incredibly tough!!!
I understand what you mean about in -laws, mine are great but I can't really open up fully to them, it's a bit awkward 😂
Great idea to start this thread and I'm sorry you don't have a great family either 😞 congratulations on your pregnancy though! It's such an exciting time isn't it 💞 xx

So sorry to hear about your mum, and congratulations on your wonderful news. Although not at all the same I was abroad and away from all family and friends during my pregnancy, it’s a lot to do on your own! Wishing you all the best and I know your Mum would be so happy for you

Hey, I’m in the same boat as you. My mum passed away recently and I am in my late 20s expecting a baby in December. My dad lives miles away and I rarely see him and I don’t have any close family where I live currently.
I luckily have a great partner who’s supportive and this thread sounds great!

Sorry for your loss and congratulations on your pregnancy!

Hi Pennyroses,

Thank you for writing. Aww your own little family unit sounds amazing, it will be special for you this time having an older daughter to chat with and the children will have a special bond for sure 🥰

Sorry to hear about your nan thats so tough, I bet she was a wise lady and thats why she made the decisions that she did regarding her finances. Mum and aunt sound rotten so you are better off creating your own positive environment.

It can be isolating having no female relatives around, I could tell you another story about an aunt (mums sister) that the family disowned due to her lying and being involved in lets just say dodgy things. So I get where you are coming from.

How are you and bump getting on? Whats the latest with your pregnancy?

love Mermaid x

Hi Zeduk,

Thank you for your kind words 🥰 How are you getting on now? Are you still abroad and away from family? Did it get any easier for you?

love mermaid x

Dear TrolleyPolly,

I am so sorry to hear about your mum, my heart breaks for you, I know how tough it is. It is my mums birthday this Saturday so I’m feeling so overwhelmed with emotions, I went in the Christmas shop in town on Sunday and saw “Mum” Christmas cards and had a little cry.. right there in the shop 🥹.

One because I wanted to get one for my mum, Two because I realised that I am going to be a mum, and that the word “mum” will have two meanings now.

Its so bittersweet, happy and sad. I also cried watching a programme that mum used to watch because we worked out she would have watched it when pregnant with me. Its just sort of brought all the emotions to the surface for me.

How are things for you and bump? 🎄A December baby eeek so exciting!!! How are you feeling about things?

Love Mermaid x

It's sad isn't it that family can be so rubbish sometimes! I'm so sorry about your mum, you seem like a really lovely person so it sounds like she did a great job in raising you and I'm sure you had a lovely bond 💓
The pregnancy is going well thanks, had my anomaly scan last week and was lovely to see baby girl growing well 🩷 How are you feeling? Have you got used to the lovely news yet?! Takes a while to sink in doesn't it!! ❤️ xx

Omg congratulations....I'm here to talk to moan to anytime, I'm a mum of 3 daughters, 2 grandkids xx

Babies

Super congratulations xxx

Hello @Pennyrosesupdate me how are things going! 💛💛💛💛

Hi all,

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Update from me, I miscarried end of 2025 💔 and that was so tough, it felt like two bereavements all at once. All of the emotions with mum’s passing came back up to the surface. The loss was so devestating, and I did feel lonely, took me a while to build myself back up.

I have just found out that I am pregnant again woohooo. Its early days 4-5weeks but feeling good to be back on the mum-to-be path.

Hehe thank you!

Ive got a brown patch on my face which google tells me is “the mask of pregnancy” did you ever get that?

love mermaid x

Congratulations!
Just wanted to say good luck and sorry your mum isn't here with you xx

Hey! I'm doing good thanks, baby girl is 10 weeks old now! Crazy how time flies. How are you doing now? x

@MermaidG oh sorry I've only just seen your sad update 💔 but congratulations on your new pregnancy! 🤞🏼 All goes smoothly for you this time. I had 3 losses before having my little girl so I completely understand x

Aww thank you 💕 xxx

eeek thats so lovely to hear! Whats little ladies name!!

how are you finding mum life?

Oh I’m sorry to hear that 💔 Its so tough isnt it, some days are harder than others.

I have so much more anxiety this time round, which is a shame because it takes some excitement away, but hopefully as times goes by I will feel more confident with the pregnancy going fine. I had a little cramp just now and I had to resist the urge to google “is it normal”. I need to trust my body, and the process.

Did you feel similar? I wish I was more chilled honestly 🫣 I am so excited but 100% overthinking it!!!

love mermaid x

Her name is Maybelle! She's great, very chilled and smiley 😊 Her birth wasn't great and we had to stay in hospital a while after she was born as she lost too much weight but she's doing well now.
Oh yes I was an anxious mess my whole pregnancy! One of my losses was late on (19 weeks) so I didn't really start to relax a bit until I got past that point but even then I was so worried, it was very hard. But I can say it was all worth it now she's here! I'd say try to relax and take it easy but I know that's a lot easier said than done! Wishing you all the best 🤞🏼💞