Second babies.

[Jenny124501]

What is everyone doing in regard to their first child and their second child? Let me explain haha my first child is 4 and constantly getting sick from someone else at nursery, this week she, myself and my boyfriend all have a tummy bug. I am 10 weeks pregnant and i don’t know what to do when baby gets here, is my daughter allowed to kiss this baby on the cheek/ forehead or can she make them sick like others can and only myself and my boyfriend can kiss them?
Another question but anyone else worried about their older kid accidentally hurting the baby? My little girl loves lego and other small toys, can she understand that they are dangerous for the baby? She is very smart but its good to hear from other people who have been in this situation before, thank you.

Congratulations. I had similar age gap. I didn’t want to affect affection by banning kisses completely so allowed kisses on forehead. Also taught son that no one outside of him and me and dh was allowed to kiss baby. It made him feel special but also was quite good as he reminded others of this - and they seem to take it better from child ( not that I relied on this alone) . Two years on he still tries to implement this rule and I have to remind him we have eased the rules lol
Obviously if he was ill I would not have allowed- maybe you could use next 30 weeks to practise the concept no giving kisses when I’ll ( for any of you in household)
Fair enough to be worried. At 4 years old at least she has concept of hurt and better able to follow rules ( compared to say 2 year olds)
Saying that my 4 year old excitedly ran into a room once when I had baby between my legs and stepped on babys stomach when she was maybe 2 weeks old and 5lb ( she was fine in end). He was not a runner, she was literally between my legs on floor so some things cannot be avoided
Thats really the only incident - we repeatedly explained to him the important of keeping the baby safe and how fragile she was and he appeared to get it - never bumping into her , standing behind her as a buffer when learning to walk etc
I also had same Lego fear - for first 6 months they are pretty immobile so that makes it a lot easier to manage. Then you can assess if your baby sticks everything in mouth or not. We did have Lego only at table rule and no small balls for a while when baby was more mobile but this was very short lived - as she grew out of putting things in mouth ( to a degree)

I worried about this. DD2 caught a cold from DD1 on day 10 of life. Breast feeding if you can will help if they do catch anything.

DD1 was a COVID baby she had one ill ess in the first year. DD2 has several but what I will say is DD2 seems to have a much better immune system, gets of it quicker and has it milder than DD1 X

I have a 5 year old and a 5 week old. The day baby came home 5 yo started sneezing and has been low grade snotty since. 🤦🏼‍♀️
We insist on her (and everyone) washing their hands when they get home regardless of where they have been.
We are making sure she blows her nose rather than wiping it on her sleeve or just sniffing and getting her to wash her hands afterwards blowing her nose
So far we haven't stopped the kisses and cuddles as she's not really ill with it but we would if she got worse.
Baby has occasionally has been a little snuffly but ok so far.
My daughter was a covid baby too and didn't get ill until she started nursery at 9 months so this is all new to us too!

We redid the toy storage when I was pregnant and got lots of boxes so each game has a box or a bag to go in. We are trying to instigate a put it away before you get a new toy out. We will be more firm about this once baby is mobile especially for Lego and Sylvanian family pieces which are super tiny. Depending on how things go we might make these toys that she plays with in her bedroom or other spaces where we can exclude the baby from for the time she's playing with it.