I feel pathetic!!

[WellyBelly]

Sorry, this may be a bit of a whinge thread...am 28 weeks and feeling really crap. Having had a reltively hassle free few weeks I seem now to be crying at the smallest thing, totally over-reacting to situations, struggling to get out of bed in the morning, dealing with a bloody excrutiating pain under my ribs (can only presume its a rogue limb, but swear to god it hurts to breathe sometimes) and to top it all off I'm covered in acne and feels so self conscious I dont want to leave the house which I know sounds terribly shallow but at lease if I look ok I can pretend I'm fine. I dont have any friends who are pg so it feels a bit like no-one really 'gets it'. My dp is fab, I've been so lucky to have him but I think even he is starting to think wtf???? I know i'll never be of the 'pregnancy is a wonderful, glowing,...yadda yadda school of of thought' and I cant wait to meet my baby but I feel bad for this self pitiying crap esp as in the grand scheme of things some ladies suffer so much more....I just feel so YUCK!!!

hi welly, sounds like you need some pampering. is there a spa you can go to? many of them do pregnancy pampering! massage, pedicure, that kind of thing

when i was pregnant with DS, i went through what you are going through now. this time will pass! you need some pampering !

hi, I feel quite similar! Am 30 weeks and whilst I have not felt REALLY ill, I've not been 100% since I fell pregnant. Its hard as I have a 17month old to look after too....

Like you I have been exhausted but now am on iron tablets which are helping - have you had your blood checked recently?

I know that some women suffer far more, but its all relative and feeling like this is bound to get you down. Try not to worry or beat yourself up, you will be on the "home run" soon enough!

Emotional is fine - you're pregnant. But if you're finding it all a bit much (I'm presuming this is your first?) then go to your GP/midwife and get checked over.

My first used to wedge his foot under my ribs, and boy is it uncomfortable - but not excruciatingly painful. So you ought to get the pain checked out, just in case it's something else. As for the dreggy feeling, I got that in 3rd trimester in each pregnancy, together with recurrence of morning sickness. It turned out to be mild anaemia. As soon as I started taking iron supplements I felt vastly better - bloomed,even!

You can enjoy the rest of your pg, it won't all be bleurgh.

Oh you poor thing, don't worry what you're feeling is quite normal, pregnancy is like having barely controlled pmt a lot of the time- don't expect a man to fully understand even when they're doing their best, bless them.

It's doubly hard when you're the first one in your group of friends to get pregnant- I can remember a time when I took along a childless friend with me to boots for moral support to stock up on lst minute things like maternity pads, breast pads, nipple cream etc (she's usually a riot, I thought we'd have a bit of a giggle over all that stuff) she made several comments about how it all sounded horrific and gross, then stood and looked uncomfortable and texted while I went through the aisles feeling more and more embarassed as if I was this big leaky freakshow, it really upset me!

The crap thing is, when THEY have kids you'll be the friend they go to for advice and support! Hard when you don't have it yourself though. Perhaps you could try going to a bumps n babies group, meet some other mums to be?

The acne sounds horrible, some women just don't "bloom". I didn't, I had low iron and my skin was pale and very dry. I had constant coldsores, even my hair was weird and wouldn't do anything I wanted it to. You aren't self pitying, it IS difficult, especially when everyone expects pregnant women to bloom and be permanently happy. It ain't necessarily so!

hmm, sounds like we all had low iron levels/anaemia. Op it might be a good idea to check that out in case it's contributing to how you're feeling, I can't tell you how much better I felt and looked once I started taking iron supplements!!!

I can relate to how you feel. Can I pass on one thing which has made a huge difference to me. I am 32 weeks and up until 26 weeks had the most terrible acne - all over my neck and face, back and chest. I felt awful, I know what you mean in that others suffer from far worse, but it really affected my confidence, I didn't want to go to work etc...

At 26 weeks I started drinking 2 litres of water every day. I have been religious about it, filling a bottle up in the morning and making sure it's empty by bedtime. It's the only way I can make sure I drink enough, (I tried drinking water before and thought it didnt make any difference but maybe I wasn't drinking enough).

Perhaps my skin would have cleared up anyway, but within about a week I had noticed a huge difference. And now, although not completely gone, my skin is so much better.

Hope you feel better soon x

Thankyou all so much....its nice to know I'm not on my own!!! I will get iron levels checked, and yup, its my first. You're stars!