MIL visting but not interested in doing anything

[summerpeach22]

My MIL has come to stay with us for three weeks. I’m 32 weeks pregnant and was hoping to use this time to get things organized before the baby arrives and do the things I enjoy before the baby comes.

She doesn’t want to go out, doesn’t cook or help in the house, is not interested in getting baby things ready, or even making herself a cup of tea! She’s perfectly content to either sit on the sofa all day with her phone or stay in bed. In some ways, that makes her an easy guest as she is no way demanding, but at the same time, I feel a bit stuck.

I have things I need to do to get ready for the baby, yet it feels like we’re housebound because my husband wants to make sure she has company and spend time with her. Any advice on how to make the best of this?

Jesus just leave her lazy ass to it! Leave her alone if she doesn't want to come out shopping for baby stuff or doing nice things. What a waste of a trip for her, which is in no way your fault!

Has she flown in from overseas?

What's she there for, to take up space? Leave her to it, you and your husband should be out doing what you want to do.

Your husband had better take some annual leave and entertain her so you can go out.
He Doesn’t get to dictate how it goes for THREE WHOLE FUCKING WEEKS! He’s your husband, not your boss.
That is a long time.
”I’m bored and need to go out MIL. Are you coming with me?” Is good enough.

Please do the things you wanted to do. You will never get this time again.
Also show her where the kettle is and offer to make a cup once a day and that’s it.
life is short. It’s your maternity leave not hers. Spend it as you wish.
This will also help you for when your baby does arrive. As there won’t be an expectation you will run around after her then as well.

Do anything you want. Ask her. Go regardless.

Done!

Also, your DH is an idiot.

3 weeks is ages! Absolutely go out and do what you want and do not feel bad about it at all. This is your time!

How weird! How long has she been with you so far - is it jet lag?!

I guess I’d just tell her my plans for next day and ask if she wants to join in or stay home - if she wants to stay home say, “then there’s some soup in the fridge and we can watch a film together tonight if you like?”

Tell her your plans. Ask if she’d like to accompany you. If she doesn’t go without her. I’m sure she’ll find the kettle if you’re not there to be her personal waitress.

Your husband should be taking the lead on entertaining her and making sure she has what she needs. You have a deadline, so prioritize yourself, but make her feel included with a special dinner or two and invites to some of your errands.