40+3 weeks pregnant 😭 emotional frustrated and just want to scream!!!

[padawan93]

I know I’m not even that overdue but I am SO done being pregnant at this point. I was told by so many people including midwives that my baby boy would come early because he was measuring big which has just added to my frustration.

I’ve had 2 sweeps, one at 39 weeks and then one at 40+1 weeks. The second has ignited something as I’ve had cramps and lost some of my mucus plug but no other signs of labour. Midwife told me my cervix was favourable at 1cm dilated, fully effaced and central so I’m hoping things will progress over the next couple of days?!

Im just wondering if anybody else is in the same boat as me as I feel like im losing my mind. Friends and family keep telling me he will come when he’s ready which I absolutely know he will do, but those comments just make me want to scream because I’m in so much pain and so uncomfortable!!!! Not helped by the constant texts ‘checking in’ asking if hes here yet as that’s just making me feel like a failure and I’m doing something wrong.

I have another sweep booked in for Tuesday and then induction Thursday if no baby by then as I’ll be 41 weeks. At least I know I’ll have a baby by the end of next week. I’d love to avoid induction if possible but I know that’s not always possible.

PLEASE tell me I’m not alone 😭🥺

One of mine is now 19 and I was allowed to go 18 days overdue , so I feel your pain especially with the remarks & questioning from those around you . Good luck and try to ignore them .

Try and keep active, if you can. I remember losing hope around the same time.

The day before I went into labour, I'd walked up and down a massive steep hill and then had sex in the evening. My waters broke as I was getting out of bed the next morning. I was 41 weeks exactly.

I went at 41+5 with my first. Walk if you can, plan a nice meals or snacks if you can't manage big meals and read (I'm sure you're rolling your eyes to those suggestions lol). Hope it happens soon for you.

I felt exactly like you at 40+3 on my 2nd. I was so emotional and just basically furious to still be pregnant I didn't want to speak to anyone and couldn't stop crying. Baby came at 40+4 :) and looking back I always imagine that rage/despair was the massive hormone surge that kickstarted labour, so fingers crossed for you!

I went to 40 + 12. Was many years ago but I still remember.
Tell everyone that if they ask you one more time you’ll just ignore them.
I know it’s trite but once baby is here it will so quickly become a distant memory.
Hold on, you are so nearly there.

You have my sympathies OP, I got to 42 weeks.

Block everyone on your phone who is asking questions. This will help you regain some of your sanity.

Otherwise… rather than obsessional curb walking etc - I’d just try to make yourself feel good…! Think of ten nice things you can do over the next four days - funny movies, maybe a restaurant you’ve wanted to go to, book a foot massage etc.

You poor thing, that last little bit of pregnancy is so so tough! The fact that your cervix is effaced and moving forwards and even slightly dilated is amazing though, things are definitely happening, it just takes a while when it’s your first baby.

For me personally I actually did end up having an induction and it was really positive! So it’s not always the horror stories you hear about. But it does sound like things are getting started for you so hopefully you won’t need one. I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you that you’ll be in labour very soon, and have a nice smooth delivery! 🤞🏼

Thank you all so much for your comments, it does make me feel better to know I’m not alone in how I’m feeling and also that you haven’t all been scarred by this waiting game 🤣 xxx

Ah I got to 41+4 with my son, it's so hard when everyone's saying 'enjoy the rest' but you can't bloody rest because you're so uncomfortable and on edge waiting for labour. I'd ignore any 'friendly' enquiries and try to get active to try and get things moving (even though it's probably the last thing you feel like doing). My obstetrician said that eating lots of fibre can help speed things along - worth a shot. You're nearly there! The final straight. Hope everything goes well

I didn't go over due with mine but I was unwell and was counting down the days until they would be willing in induce me the days were long but once it started it went pretty quickly and the waiting was soon forgotten once they were here. They did keep being the date forward thankfully. It started at after 38 weeks, then after 37 weeks then they agreed at 36+6 although it did end up as being the next day.

They did a sweep at 36+6 which was enough to get me to 1 cm and contractions started, my body only then needed a gentle nudge from the induction. I had the pessetry which could have been in for up to 24h but I only needed it for 4h and I did need my waters breaking but this was due to me struggling with labour for the same reasons that I was induced. From a painrelief perspective I had a couple of doses of paracetamol during the induction and gas and air through labour and it was only 20h from the the start of the induction to the end and active labour was 6h

As you are already showing the initial signs of labour you might find that you just need a gentle nudge from an induction and then can labour without further interventions. There are a lot of scare stories about induction that they lead to more interventions but it's not always the case.

Good luck and I hope the little one makes a quick appearance!

I completely get it! I’m sorry it’s still ongoing. My plan is to keep active, keep colostrum harvesting and try more visualisation! I’m so ready for this baby to come out! I just want to meet her!

Also my NCT group have all had their babies! We were due last but some closer to us have come early. I’m losing the plot, like it’s never going to happen!

Not in the same boat currently but have been. Both mine were born at 41+1. With DC2 I had a midwife appointment on the Wednesday and she said she reckoned I'd have a baby by that evening but he didn't come until Sunday!

The checking in texts drove me mad. Like I would reply 'oh yes had the baby 3 days ago and forgot to tell you'!

Your induction could take a week, so it might be a while before you see your baby, even if you're induced.

I went to 41+6 with both of mine and was eventually induced. It was August and I was extremely fed up, swollen and just done. People checking in pissed me off even though i knew they meant well.

Try and keep active where you can, do the little small things that keep you happy and try and enjoy your bump as I really missed mine after. Baby will be here soon as much as it may feel like you will be pregnant for ever.

Get a bikini wax. As painful as possible. It works.

And turn your phone off. Turn mumsnet off. Everything. Get in your bubble.

I woke up in labour at 41 weeks exactly. Baby was born within 4 hours. Good luck x

@padawan93 I feel for you and im only 38 weeks and 3 days. You are absolutely on the home straight....you got this! Xx

Hi @padawan93… Hope your baby has arrived safely xx

I feel your pain, my
first born was 10 days late and I found it agonising waiting!! Snacks, tv, books and relaxing until he’s ready!
good luck x