30 weeks and feel rubbish

[SB1712]

Just coming on for a rant! Feel free to join in anyone who is in the same or similar boat!

I am 30 weeks and feel like utter cr*p! This is my second pg and I breezed my first for the most part so naively thought this would be similar.
Ive been uncomfortable from about 18 weeks, anemia, low BP, thrush, back pain…you name it I’ve had it! Baby was back to back for a while which gave me constant discomfort. I’m only short and my bump is so high and tight, the only relief I have is lying down. Everything is stretched, my skin feels like it wants to burst.

Have been very breathless and have felt faint for weeks until anaemia was addressed but still only feel 10-20% improvement since starting on iron.
Currently have intermittent right sided rib pain (I know! I have done the googling and scared myself is preeclampsia but no high BP and no swelling) and I can go from severely constipated to having a bad stomach in the same week!
If I could safely deliver this baby tomorrow I would, but know they need more time. I hate to wish it away but my body feels so alien to me, I can’t physically do much and I feel sorry for my other child who has not long started school. My MH has been low this pg for different reasons but all of the above have strongly contributed!

The floor is open for others to join!

Me too OP - 31 weeks and the thought of another 10 weeks of this…

Uncomplicated pregnancy, as was my first. I’m just so tired. My clothes don’t fit. I’m already swelling a bit so have no idea what shoes I’ll be able to wear as it gets cooler. I have insomnia for some reason. If I do fall asleep… I wake up every hour needing to turn + toilet visit. My pelvis hurts and I get bouts of sciatica.

I also have another child and I just have no idea when I am supposed to relax / recover.

Oh and I work full time. And a commute. And my toddler won’t go to bed.

Yes! Clothing has been a massive trigger for me, nothing fitting or looking the same, not wanting to buy new things as this is definitely my last pg. Understand this feels like a very privileged problem and that’s not lost on me, I’m not ungrateful for my situation. But mentally and physically it’s been a lot.

Yes turning in bed is like a truck going a 43 point turn! I feel like a rotisserie chicken when I roll over it takes me that long by the time I’ve adjusted everything.

I have an option to wfh a lot so I do split my time, I’m thankful for that. Commuting all the time must be really hard, you have my total sympathy there. I can imagine the car journey is uncomfortable too.

Nearly 32 weeks and happy to join for a moan! Overall I really can’t complain about the actual pregnancy- much easier pregnancy than my first (for which I am very thankful) but I am now officially enormous, none of my clothes fit, this will be our last baby so I don’t see much point buying more maternity clothes at this stage, and my daughter is nearly 18 months old so right at “I refuse to get in the pram, I can walk, but not very fast or for very long and then I will expect to be carried” age.

Gone to bed in a strop tonight after my husband very generously offered me his comfy pj’s, swearing blind “these will definitely fit you honestly they are big on me and really comfy”. They in fact did not fit so now I’m going to sulk for an hour and go to sleep😂

In all seriousness I am incredibly grateful for another healthy pregnancy, my husband and daughter are amazing, but wow the end of pregnancy is such a mental and physical battle!

Same! Nearly 30 weeks. Pelvic pain is horrendous so rolling over in bed is excruciating. Plus the regular wee trips through the night. Have crutches to get around at work as site is massive but all I get are comments from colleagues about how slow I am and how big I am. Like why-just butt out and shut up!

Had similar with my toddler, but not this early. Plus they have a cold so sleep has gone out of the window (not that it was particularly great before hand)

Baby is also measuring big and favourite position is transverse. Also feel like midwives are not listening to any of my concerns when I raise them. So everything is a battle

@Lollytea655 thing is - we aren’t even at the end, there’s two months to go!

Yaaaas I’ve found my people! 30 weeks with oops number 5 (plus 2 DSC so baby #7 in the house) and I’m beyond exhausted. I’m fat and tired and hot, SPD is kicking in so I feel like I’ve been kicked in the crotch, and today I have a banging headache for no apparent reason which is annoying and horrible. I really can’t moan too much - the older ones (mine 13, 9, 7; his 13, 9) are all lovely kids, helpful, generally well behaved, great with the little one; our shared toddler (18mo) is a standard toddler but pretty chill on the whole, sleeps well, generally a little joy. I’m still working but on the wind down thanks to lots of annual leave to use between now and the official start of mat leave…but I’m just TIRED! Feel like if I could sleep for a week I’d be ready to face the world again 😅

I'm 11 days post partum but the last few months of my pregnancy were awful

When I had my daughter aside from hyperemesis I coped well with pregnancy and was active right up to the end. The day my waters broke I helped my partner take apart my office and put it in the loft

This time around it was going ok until 32 weeks then things started going wrong. I ok, a bit uncomfortable if I had been walking about too much but lying down for a bit resolved that. Then I developed obstetric Cholestasis and was insanely itchy and my liver function declined. I had threatened preterm labour at 34 weeks and was diagnosed with an irritable uterus which meant I was having regular contractions which first started around 33 weeks. At 35 weeks I was admitted to hospital with extreme fatigue. They couldn't find any obvious cause so they assume it was due to my liver, then other things started going off. The liver issues meant I was going to be induced at 38-39 weeks, they brought that appointment forward by a week because of my fatigue. Everyone was getting concerned that i wouldn't manage labour. I was having blood tests twice weekly and at 36+6 they made the decision that it was time to induce me and baby arrived at 37+1

@SB1712 if the iron isn't helping I'd keep going back to them. If you aren't getting anywhere with midwives do go through maternity triage. I felt a bit daft when I called saying I was struggling with fatigue but they were helpful and ran more tests and kept me whilst they tried to sort things out. When I had raised the issue with the midwife I got a bit of generic your pregnant rest but this was beyond that. Seeing me all day and just how much it was impacting me made a difference.

Ooh I’ll join in!

I’m 29 weeks pregnant. I have an 8 & 5 year old.
Suffered with awareness seizures throughout. Feel like I’m about to die most days. Cannot wait to get this over with.

I feel like all I do is moan and I am sick of the sound of my own voice when it comes to something else that’s wrong - thank you for making me feel normal even though we are all suffering. I don’t want to seem ungrateful because I’m not but wow, it’s taking it out of me in every way right now and know it’s only going to get worse. Can see the finish line but with 9 weeks to go it’s still 2 months and that’s such a long time.
My boobs started leaking 2 days ago just to add to the long list of things to think about/address/hide!

@Superscientist that sounds so scary, i think I’d be traumatised. How are you doing now?
Same for you @hoohaal I haven’t heard of those seizures before, what is happening?

10 weeks to go for the majority of us, give or take. I’m dreaming of pate and wine at the end of it and a safe delivery for us all 🙏

@SB1712 i went to 42 weeks last time and was induced - a bit worried this will happen again.

Been putting off thinking about that phase of the pregnancy so far… I think second babies come earlier, so here’s hoping…

@SB1712 it was hard. The fatigue came on quite quickly. On the Wednesday at 34 weeks I had been given the green light to go away for 2 weeks as the Cholestasis seemed stable, lucky we ended up not going. A week later I couldn't stay awake and was admitted to hospital.

It was the last few weeks of the summer holidays so lots of mum guilt that I slept all day and my daughter had to be looked after by a rota of people. I had to stop driving so had to get my dad to ferry me to all my hospital appointments. I ended up being induced on the first day of term so neither me nor dad could be there.

I'm doing better since having him but still struggling with fatigue. I'm ok as long as I don't leave the house. Yesterday I went to the pharmacy and went to the park to see some friends and had to have a 2h nap when I got home. They have said it might take 6 weeks for my body to recover and my liver function to go back to normal.

@SB1712 don't feel bad for moaning! Moan away here!

I'm sorry you are all struggling, the last trimester can be hard enough without any additional health complaints