Shall I do a gender reveal when I miscarried before?

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I'm torn with wanting to celebrate 2nd pregnancy as I've gone the furthest I ever have in a pregnancy but I still think well what if this pregnancy doesn't work out? I suppose I could keep it really small with just immediate family only. I feel like I should celebrate this pregnancy. Not sure what to do.

I personally find gender (sex) reveal parties and baby showers tacky so I'm going to vote no on those grounds.
But it's not up to anyone else OP, so it's your decision.

You don't say how far along you are, but obviously miscarriage risk falls the further on your are.

Sorry about your miscarriage but no "gender" reveals are absolute wank.

Definitely celebrate if you want to! We are doing a close family gender "reveal". But it'll just be a meal out and then some cupcakes with the coloured bits inside and that's it. It's an excuse to get our families together as they all live away, and to celebrate the pregnancy.

I'm the same, I feel bad not really celebrating this pregnancy but I had a late loss (19 weeks) and we'd found out she was a little girl and told everyone all excited 😢 so this time I just don't want to bother at all. I'll find out the gender next week but we'll be keeping it quiet until at least a lot further on x

I would focus on looking after your physical and mental health, and getting ready quietly for baby's arrival. Spend the money on a pregnancy massage or getting your nails done instead. These reveal parties seem to all be about the socials and are quickly forgotten.

Speaking as someone who’s had many, many miscarriages, I personally would celebrate (and I did), because I was fed up of hiding them and needed to celebrate my baby regardless of whether I eventually miscarried or not. I didn’t and we had 3 gender reveals & I probably looked stupid but it felt amazing to celebrate it in the moment and after baby was born.

Gender reveals are not my thing and I didn't find out until my baby was born. But I don't think a history of miscarriages should be a reason you don't celebrate your pregnancy if it's what you want. Be happy in the moment, this is a new pregnancy and you can't jinx it.

I would have absolutely loved a gender reveal.
We had 3 miscarriages before this, and although i was thinking it may be a nice idea to have a little gender reveal party and i planned it all what i was going to be doing for it!

In the end i decided not to, as the money i would put into a gender reveal, it could have been used for stuff for baby and it wasnt going to be a massive gender reveal.

We decided to have a private scan and send everyone the video of them showing baby was a boy. It felt more personal for us to do this as the people we love knew about our struggles.
So people could be happy for us, but it didnt have to be a massive thing that we was having a boy, just because you've had a previous miscarriage doesnt mean you shouldnt celebrate the gender of your baby.
I just knew id have some sort of gender disappointment if he wasnt a boy, as me and my OH definitely knew we wanted a boy! So it just felt right to do it on a personal level just by sending the cute video of the sonographer saying 'congraulations!!! Its a boyyy!' That was definitely enough for us! It was sweet and personal, and we was able to show each other affection in our own way rather than just a little peck and then dealing with others.
(We're not great at affection infront of other people🤣)
We were able to hug and kiss and get super excited about it on our own before we shared the news with our loved ones.

Whatever you choose dont feel bad over it! X

I think that you should do whatever feels right for you (and your partner).

Gender reveals aren’t my thing but if I had a friend who was throwing one I would be honoured to celebrate with them. Especially if they have had previous losses.

Thankyou everyone 🧡

No. Don’t do any sort of a ‘gender reveal’. It’s tacky, American and naff.

You could perhaps tell your immediate family the sex of the baby if you wish - or how about just hug this sweet, intimate secret to yourselves for a few months and let everyone have a happy, exciting surprise when the baby was born?

Wish you a happy, healthy and safe pregnancy and a gorgeous baby. X

Nope. It’s so cringey!
Congratulations on your baby Op 🎉