DH STILL hasn’t told his family

[Dueindecemberr]

I’m 28 weeks today. DH still hasn’t told his family. Has been to 0 appointments (scans and other appts), mainly because of childcare of our other dc. I’m having scans every 4 weeks plus have had 4 cardiac scans so far, so there are plenty of appts to come to.

Has anyone else been in this position? I feel like he’s ashamed of me/ this unplanned pregnancy, whilst I am coping with the physical strain (gestational diabetes and looking after other young dc) and emotional upset.

Congratulations on your pregnancy and sorry for your health issues

maybe he’s worried they’ll be judgey

not sure why the lack of support around your appointments

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What's his relationship with his family like? My husband didn't tell his family until really late, but in his case he's not close with them so it was sort of understandable. If yours does have a close relationship then there's obviously something else happening. It may not be shame though, there's a lot of other explanations (eg, if you've had losses before, could he be anxious?)

What is his relationship with his family like? How is he generally ?
My partner told his parents at 12 weeks but I was 33 weeks before he told his brother and that was only because our plans to be away near where he lived changed as I became too unwell.
He came to the dating and anomaly scan but none of the midwife, consultant or growth scan appointments. He did come with me to maternity triage every time and he was planning on coming to my last consultant appointment to discuss induction plans but my health deteriorated in the meantime and I was brought in for an induction before this appointment.
He is a loving doting father and partner and does absolutely anything I ask of him.

Have you asked him why?

That’s a bit odd. Have you also not seen his family? Is this your second?

Do you or him not see his parents ? Do they live abroad?

Have you asked him why he hasn't told them?

Why hasn’t he told them? It sounds like he isn’t happy about the pregnancy and/or has his head in the sand about it because he’s very worried about it? Why’s he so detached from the whole thing do you think? And have you not seen or spoken to your in-laws in 6 months?