is it normal to not feel happy bout bein pregnant some days??

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im 21 weeks now n i feel like i shud be over the moon but some days i just dont feel it at all. i do love this baby but i just feel more stressed than happy if that makes sense?? keep thinkin bout the scan n the shadow on babys heart, money stuff, flat too small, bf not botherin to come scans… it all gets on top of me. i feel guilty cos i know some ppl would love to be pregnant n i shud just be grateful. but some days i just sit here cryin n think i cant do this again. is that normal or am i just a horrible mum 😢

Totally normal in my experience. Your hormones are all over the shop and it’s a big change. You’re worried about the birth. It’s stressful without dealing with everything you’ve listed there. Even choosing the bloody pram is a headache.
You’ll be a great mum 💐
I hope you have some support from friends and family.

You have a lot to deal with. It’s not surprising that you feel low.

I hated being pregnant, most of the time I was. It wasn’t that I didn’t want the baby, I just hated being pregnant.

This is completely normal. It’s a big life change and can really get on top of you sometimes. Don’t beat yourself up. Best of luck with the rest of your pregnancy.

You’ve a lot on your plate. Are you getting perinatal mental health support?

Hi OP are you the same poster who made quite a few threads about your teenager not being in education and you not having a bed? Forgive me if not, your writing style is the same and similar gestation I think. But if you are, did you solve any of the other problems?

thank u 💐 means alot. i dont really have family support tbh n most my friends are just ppl online now. feel bit silly sayin that but its true. i do try n keep busy but sometimes it just feels really lonely.

Is there no support that the midwives can point you to?

Yes totally normal. Pregnancy is an uncertain time and it sounds like you're in quite a difficult situation. I personally find pregnancy miserable every day. Manage to stuff my misery into a box in my head and get on with it but every few weeks I just cry with how miserable it is. I just tolerate it until birth because after birth I'm fine again. I just hate being pregnant.

It’s the same person, there’s a lot on this board as well under this and another username.

OP, kindly, have you sought out any mental health support from the midwives or your GP at all? I’m sure they’ll be kind and be able to offer you some advice for all your concerns

Your feelings are absolutely valid!
I literally woke up one day and told myself i didnt want a baby and i was terrified that i was going to give birth to a baby i didnt want, (although ive always wanted children! We went through 3 miscarriages and it was heartbreaking that i thought this)
It was just a low point in my pregnancy, my life had changed so much in a short amount of time, my OH could have a beer on a friday to unwind and i couldnt, best i could have was some juice or lemonade😅 i was growing, i had a bump relatively early on at 19 weeks. So i felt different, everyone was treating me like i was on my death bed, i couldnt move a muscle at work because they were all concerned.

Now im 31 weeks and im so excited to be able to have a little person who will be running me round in circles! Whos looking like my OH (we went for a 4D scan so i know what he looks like🤣)
The feeling will pass, just take your pregnancy a day at a time xx