I have a toddler who is two on Sunday and I’m currently pregnant with baby no.2 (due date is 30th Nov.) I have had many ups and downs with their dad. Things all started just before my first was born and he showed that he wasn’t there for me in a supportive and mature way when it came to midwife appointments. He’s has since shown a similar amount of effort/ lack of emotional sensitivity with my 2nd pregnancy. He wasn’t supportive and was selfish when I was suffering with ppd with my first.
He isn’t a bad person but I feel he cannot love/ support me the way I need support. I am a breast feeding mummy and in the early days when I was so tired, I asked him to please warm some milk up I’d pumped from the freezer in the middle of the night and take one turn to feed our daughter and he just refuses and tried to make me feel bad, that’s she’s hungry ‘now’ and I’m the one being selfish. I do everything for our children, house etc. he does the bare minimum.
He’s also defensive of his own family and doesn’t see where I’m coming from when bringing up the fact his family don’t make any effort with our daughter. I’ve made the decision to leave him. I want him to move out of our rented home. He of course doesn’t want to leave and is blaming my hormones on my decision. I feel quite clear headed actually and just can’t go through this stress anymore. Has anyone else left their partner whilst being pregnant? Any advice? Thank you.