Has anyone else found that their husband acts like an ARSE during 3rd and more pregnancies??

[Disenchanted]

Meaning 1st and 2nd time he was great ... loving ect ..

but this time round he just makes comeents like 'get on with it' or 'you're not dying or ill'

Or is he just an arse in general?

I really am starting to think he is.

To the point where i FELL through the stairgate this morning (between room not at the top of the stairs thankgod) and he just sniggered and said 'why are you trying to walk through a closed stairgate'

and it was BIL who came and asked me several times if I was OK and if I had hurt my bellly

I hadn't BTW it was just my ankle, but was crying because of DH

He's being an arse and make sure you tell him so.

I don't know why people are like this with woman after their first pregnancies, if anything it gets harder, not easier.

I hope you are ok.

No, my husband's acted the same as the other two times.

He sounds like an arse in general if he's behaving that way.

I think you are right Expat,

am seriously considering whats best to do lately

arse in general i think.
strangely, i was expecting that kind of attitude from my dh, though he would never SAY things like that to me, and he is actually being more attentive this time than the first 2 times!
work that one out!

(he didn't ever want more than 2)

NOT in regards to the pregnancy in regards to DH.

Disenchanted i'm with you...I'm considering whts best to do too. DH and I are not good at mo and the way he has been with me in my third pregnancy is worse then usual (and that was bed ib itself). He shows no signs of interest in me and how i feel, never tells me to take it easy etc but just points out when i haven't done something (but never notices all the things i have done!!!)

I won't take any drastic action yet tho as everyone keeps telling me 'hormones aren't what they should be blah blah blah'

Men!!! I don't want him to wrap me in cotton wool but for him to just give a shit (or even show it if he does??? who knows) would be lovely.

I have to agree. My DH is being a complete prat although I can't say he was very attentive the first 2 times either. Yesterday I had to help him carry a wardrobe upstairs. Perhaps my fault as I should have said I can't manage it but I'm not that sort of person and was hoping he'd say 'never mind darling, you can't carry that in your conditon!'. He's really acting like a spoilt little child - sulking and miserable. He's being really short tempered with my other 2 too. Perhaps it's cos he hasn't had any sex for a while but I don't actually like him very much at the moment so that's the last thing on my mind. can't possibly imagine him being a very supportive birth partner right now
Very jealous of my friend who's DH does everything for her and is so proud that she's pregnant. He shows heer off like a trophy

I'm appalled by the stuff on this thread! It suddenly occurs to me how lucky I am.

My DP wont even let me carry the shopping home. Made me wait for half an hour at Tescos the other day just so he could walk me home with a few bags! We have a few issues about housework, but that could just be me being lazy...

Can I suggest that you give your man a good slap and tell him to stop being such a knob! Possibly find yourself a more supportive birthing partner. That might even sort him out, if he realises you don't trust him to look after you in that situation...

my dh was better the third time, because i had so much else to do.

tell him to stop being a twat and to start supporting you.

telling him won't make him actually do it though unfortunately. I'm at the stage where i just give up now and accept that is what it is and wait till the time bomb goes off when I say 'right I'm out of here' Easier said then done tho when 3 kids are involved

DH was prat 2nd & 3rd time round...makes me think I should add that to list of 'why i shouldn't have another child...ever'
while i was in labour 2nd time he phoned his dad because he was bored (!) & told him "it's just a lot of waiting & breathing" ...

Pregnancy privileges evaporate third time round. Nobody is interested, including the fathers-to-be. First time round I barely carried a bag of shopping. Now I'm hefting round two children and there's no resting up. God knows what it would be like with a fourth (which there is so not going to be). My dh seems convinced that I'm constantly nagging him, even when I'm not, but he just has this default ne-ne-ne-nah fingers-in-ears attitude to anything I say.
I wouldn't tell yours not to be a twat as I think they need specifics. So tell him specific things that he could do that would help you and do all that marriage counselly "I don't like it when you say..." instead of "I hate you when..."