cant stop worryin til specialist scan 😭

[FindingMyFeet89]

hi every1
i still cant get the shadow off my mind. every time baby moves i feel happy for a sec then panic hits again. i try to enjoy kicks but my brain just jumps to worst stuff.

i keep pacing the flat n end up checkin google for answers even tho i kno i shudnt 😔 i cry when the older kids arent lookin cos i dont want them scared.

i keep thinkin maybe somethin is wrong n i just have to wait til the specialist scan but it feels like forever. some posts i read say most shadows turn out fine n that helps a little but i feel helpless til i get proper news 😢

any tips on how to keep calm while waitin??

Have you got an appointment date for the scan? Have you told your boyfriend?

not got the date yet, they just said hospital will send it out. feels like ages waitin already 😢. i did tell bf but he just said “dont stress” n changed the subject, so i dont feel like i can talk to him much about it.

Why is this man still your boyfriend? As if you need more stress in your life.

OP you just need to focus on your other children and keep your mind off the ‘what ifs’. You can’t do anything at the moment. I know it’s dreadful, but the vast majority of issues like this turn out to be nothing. If it is something, you will have help and guidance to decide on the next steps. For now, hang tight, play with your children, and breathe.

how many weeks are you? could you book a private scan if yours is a while off?

i kno ur right about not stressin over the what ifs but its so hard switchin my brain off 😔. i try keep busy with the kids but soon as im quiet it all rushes back.

im 20 weeks now, just had my anomaly scan on friday. i did think about private scan but dunno if they can check hearts proper or if it has to be nhs specialist? i just hate the waitin n feel like im losin my mind.

Private scans dont usually give medical advice, may be best checking their website if you look into a private one as they will have a disclaimer.
I think if your 20 week scan didnt bring up anything that is of conern they would have told you at the scan too, so it may just be precaution that they are sending you to a specialist.

that makes sense, i didnt think they cud probly tell me much more at a private place. i just desperate for answers 😢. i keep remindin myself if it was really serious maybe they wud have said straight away… but my head still goes to scary places. tryin to hold onto it might just be precaution like u said xx

Tell us about other stuff to take your mind off worrying. How did your son enjoy college? Did you find out if it was a boy or a girl at your scan?

If it the fetal medicine team in my experience they send an appointment out pretty quickly. I was referred to them and had the appointment within 2 weeks thankfully everything was fine for us

ds started college this week, he was dead nervous but he went in n seems ok so far. he dont say much but he went back the next day so i take that as a good sign 😂.

scan didnt tell me the gender, baby had legs crossed the whole time! part of me wants to kno but part of me likes the surprise. i just been callin bump river for now. helps me feel closer.