Scared I've drunk too much alcohol....

[ashamedmummy]

The reason I'm posting this is beacuse I'm scared so please please don't just have a go at me. I know 've been stupid and I want some honest advise as to how much damage I might have caused my baby.

This is my 3rd pregnancy and I'm 19 weeks - I have 2 healthy children already but am scared that I've drunk too much and want to know HONESTLY whether this sounds too much. I hardly drank at all in the first 12 weeks as felt lousy but in the past 6/7 weeks or so I've slipped into having a (fairly large)glass of wine every other night. I've never got drunk but have definitely drunk more than my other pregnancies.

Is this way too much? I know it probably is but have had bad news which started the spiral which I am going to end now.

Any advise - good or bad?

jette - your mw is talking bollocks. See senorapostrophes' post at 13.40ish yesterday. What you consume does not go through to the baby unless you drink litres and litres - your body has very efficient filtration systems.

sorry - meant AggiePanther. SP - can't access that article you linked to

Why on earth do they have to lie?! It makes me mad!

I drank a lot before I realised I was pg. Cut down to nothing most weeks but still drank a few glasses of wine occasionally. No harm done at all.

I agree with Spicemonster that the MW is talking pants. The placenta is a very efficient filter for all kinds of things, inc alcohol.

IME, some MWs just spout whatever crap they are told to spout without thinking about it. For example, in my last booking in appt, the MW spent about ten mins talking to me about the benefits of breastfeeding when I'd just told her I'd BF DD1 for over a year! Didn't tailor her advice to the situation at all.

Of course, lots of MW are excellent but some i've met just couldn't be arsed.

I think you need to read up on the risks etc and make a choice which is right for you. The right choice for me for this pg is to drink lightly when I fancy throughout the second and third trimesters. This is what I did with both other children (when the guidelines were that light drinking was ok) and as the research hasn't changed, I'm going to carry on. I really doubt you have done any damage thus far, and would continue to do damage if you carried on light drinking, but the choice is yours. Have a look at some research and then weigh it up.

Cheers

Sorry, "Cheers" is a traditional sign off for me rather than something more provocative

Chutney - I think that is a key point ...the research hasn't changed ..there is no new evidence to support the move from 'light drinking is okay' to 'you must abstain' ..it's a back covering thing. I drink in moderation (and sip my wine slowly)- my 2 DD's are fine and I have no worries about this little fella (35weeks pg atm)

Thank you EVERYONE who has replied to my original post. I certainly feel much more reassured and in typical fashion since I made the post, the heartburn has kicked in so that has put me right off the stuff anyway!

I appreciate the unbiased opinions and non-judgmental replies. Thankyou.

I've known for a fortnight I'm pregnant. But my dp left me and those two weeks I've drunk a few glasses most nights as so upset he's gone and scared of being all alone. I know full well I should not & I get so heady v quickly, which is unusual for me. I do always drink litres of water afterwards once I've realised it's not good. I'm six weeks tomo. Firstly, will I have damaged my much wanted baby and secondly, please any thoughts as to how to be strong and not pick up a drink from now on. Thank you x

Josie, you'd be better to start your own thread. Otherwise people will comment about the original question rather than responding to you.