Pregnancy after second trimester loss

[ZxrH888]

Hi everyone
I dont know what l'm trying to achieve by even writing this but I guess I could do with support/advice from people who have been in similar situations.
I had a healthy baby boy in 2023, followed by a second trimester loss of a much wanted baby at 16weeks in January this year. I had extensive testing done under professor regan at St Marys hospital in London and been put on blood thinning injections + Aspirin for potential clotting problems. I am now 8 weeks pregnant and have been having regular checks done. Only issue so far is a TSH of 4.3 which I am on treatment for
(Levothyroxine 50mcg).
I just find myself getting increasingly anxious and expecting the worst. Even the slightest twinge sets me off spiralling. I'm so terrified of losing another baby. My husband and I have decided to keep the pregnancy between us as it feels too much to have our families in the know. Im really struggling to just stay afloat.
How have you managed to cope with a pregnancy after loss? Any advice would be massively appreciated

Hey,
Firstly I’m so sorry for your loss!
I had a baby boy in 2022 and in 2023 I had 17 week loss.
I had a healthy baby girl in 2024 and I am currently pregnant again.
im not gonna lie, it was really hard for me, my anxiety got the best of me, and I feel it’s actually worse this time round.
I would go for frequent private scans just to put my mind at ease, but then after a few days I’d be back in that rut again, thinking the worst.
my anxiety was also worse as I approached the dates I had lost my previous baby.
i will say though, for me anyways, my anxiety got a little less when I started feeling baby’s movements.
with my girl, I didn’t tell anyone until I was over 20 weeks pregnant, and will most likely do the same again this time round.
my midwife referred me to lotus this time round for mental health so it might be worth mentioning it when you see her? I haven’t had my appt yet, it’s next week.
With my baby girl, I had someone at the hospital who came in appointments with me, and would request things on my behalf. I think they are called pma’s? But one of the main things she did for me was get us a room after I gave birth so I wasn’t on a ward with others, so I could have someone stay with me over night.
hang in there mama, you will have your days where you are constantly thinking the worst, but you will also have days that feel calmer!x

Hi, I'm so sorry for your loss 😔 I lost a baby at 19 weeks in 2023 and I'm currently 13 weeks. It's so nerve wracking, I keep just waiting for something to go wrong 😞 but so far all is ok, I don't know how I'm getting through it really! I'm on progesterone this time and will stay on it until 34 weeks. I'm also having a lot of extra checks and appointments, I had one today at the pre term prevention clinic so I do feel like everything is being done to try and prevent it this time. But it's still just so worrying isn't it. Just take one day at a time, that's all we can do really. I know I'll struggle when I hit the point I lost her but I'm just going to try and do everything I can to keep busy and distract myself 🤞🏼

Hi,
Im so sorry for your loss, congratulations on your baby and new pregnancy! Thats so reassuring to hear you've had successful pregnancies since.
Can I ask, did you ever find out what caused your second trimester loss? I think for me as I couldn't cope with the thought of post mortem I have just been frantically trying to pinpoint things and driving myself insane lol.
I have been referred to pre term clinic too, they will be seeing me at 11 weeks. Just hoping I stay pregnant 😭
thank you so much for sharing I will ask about lotus and pma's💗 Wishing you a healthy and easy pregnancy xx

Hi Lovely,
So sorry to hear about your loss, Its the most heartbreaking thing to go through! congratulations on your new pregnancy❤️ I am also on progesterone although so far they want me to stay on it until 16 weeks but I will be pushing for longer just for my peace of mind.
Can I ask how your appointment with pre term clinic went? I have mine at the end of the month and not sure what to expect.
Trying to keep busy and steer away from negative thoughts but the slightest twinge just sets me off😭 Praying for you and your baby🙏🏽❤️

I honestly couldn’t bare the thought of an autopsy for him, but they took my placenta instead and tested that. Nothing ever came from it though, and it was put down as ‘one of those things’ but I was also ill so I always thought maybe that had something to do with it but unfortunately I will never know.
I have also been referred to pre term clinic, and a check for my cervix and baby’s cord, make sure everything is working smoothly! But to this day I will always wonder what went wrong😩
Hoping everything goes smoothly for you and you have a healthy baby in your arms at the end of it all!
p.s your little one will keep you busy to the point where you will forget about the anxiety you’re having! Having my two helps a lot, but those quiet moments are the ones that hit us the most!❤️

@ZxrH888 thankyou ❤️ I wasn't sure what to expect either and thought it would just be a chat but she did a scan of baby first then an internal scan to measure my cervix. She said I'll have these appointments 4 weekly then she'll discharge me back to midwives at around 25/26 weeks x