20wk scan shadow on baby’s heart 😢

[FindingMyFeet89]

hi every1
i had my 20wk scan today n they said there’s a shadow on baby’s heart. they didnt explain much just said i need to go back for a specialist scan. i feel like my whole world just fell apart.

i cant stop cryin, i feel sick. i keep thinkin iv done somethin wrong, like maybe cos i get so stressed or cos i aint been eatin right. the sonographer wouldnt say if it was serious, just that i gotta wait for another appointment.

bf didnt even come today so i was sat there on my own hearin this news. i cant stop googlin n everything i read is scary. what if baby dont make it.

has anyone else had this?? did it turn out ok? i feel so scared 😢

It won't be anything you have done, don't worry. I think findings like this are quite common, and the only reason the person scanning you didn't say anything else about it will be because they aren't qualified to comment on it. Try to stay off Google about it, as you'll usually find scary things that aren't necessarily what you'll be going through xx

thank u for sayin that, it helps a bit. i know i shud stay off google but i keep scrollin n makin myself worse 😢 i just feel like such a bad mum already, like my body cant even grow a baby right. tryin to hold it together for the kids but inside im panickin so much. xx

I had exactly the same thing and had to get a specialiat scan for it. Thankfully it turned out to be nothing and baby was fine. Hopefully it goes the same for you. 🤞

that really helps to hear, thank u ❤️ im clingin to stories like that right now cos my head keeps goin to the worst place. i just want baby to be ok. i hate the waitin bit, feels like forever til i know for sure 😢🤞

I had this with baby no 3.
We were living overseas and I came back to UK, stayed with my Mum and got the specialist scan, and then stayed in UK. My dh and older kids were still overseas and arrived back 2 months later.
Hmm specialist scan showed shadow on the heart. Had dozens of tests and scans every week. So stressed and worried.
Each scan the baby had grown and the shadow looked less concerning. By the time baby was born, they were not worried at all.
She had an MRI at 10 days to confirm that nothing was wrong.

healthy baby girl, who is now 17.

Sometimes our modern health scans etc are both a blessing and a curse. Becuase we can see things which end up being nothing, as well as catching things we can treat early.

x x

My sone had a heart murmur after he was born and I think hearing ‘heart’ just makes it all seem so serious… even when it is very common. I won’t tell you not to worry because it’s hard not to but suspect this is also a routine occurrence and hopefully the specialist will give you reassurance!

I would be more concerned about a ‘boyfriend’ who can’t be bothered to turn up!

My DD had something like this and had to have special heart scan. Is now 17 and in excellent health. Good luck for your baby. 🌸