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Bookbee87 · 02/09/2025 01:42

I’m currently in Malaysia so my healthcare this pregnancy is private compared to UK. Any visit we pay upfront for. My husband has no issues with me visiting any time I’m worried but my goodness I need talking off of an anxiety ledge.

in the last five years we’ve had one neonatal death from CDH, two miscarriages and an ectopic.

im 7+2, we’ve had 3 scans to date, seen a heartbeat last Saturday, im on progesterone, daily injections to reduce blood clot risk (I’m 38 but considered old here) and they’ve found that I’m deficient in vitamin D so on prescription meds for that too. I know ironic after a year living in the tropics.

today my boobs stopped hurting and I stopped with the nausea and I know I should be less paranoid as well I’ve had more dr visits than most at this stage but im freaking out. I know I could contact the clinic, she would have me in, reassure me but I also don’t want to seem neurotic (well more than I already do). I guess im just alone in my thoughts whilst hubby is at work and need to hear that it’s maybe normal.

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verycloakanddaggers · 02/09/2025 05:57

I think you should focus on what would help you, not on how you appear to healthcare providers. You've experienced other losses and that naturally makes you more worried, so whatever you choose to do next, try not to be critical of your feelings.

HouseTour · 02/09/2025 06:02

congratulations❤️

OP why don't you allow yourself a scan every x amount of weeks or every month. If you can afford it then why not. Perhaps once you reach 12 weeks or whatever you may feel they're unnecessary and relax a little bit. Be kind to yourself you've been through a lot.

also, my boobs stopped hurting at 7 weeks. :)

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Bookbee87 · 02/09/2025 07:06

verycloakanddaggers · 02/09/2025 05:57

I think you should focus on what would help you, not on how you appear to healthcare providers. You've experienced other losses and that naturally makes you more worried, so whatever you choose to do next, try not to be critical of your feelings.

Thank you, I think you are right and I have got lost in my head. I’m going to make an appointment and get checked.

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Bookbee87 · 02/09/2025 07:10

HouseTour · 02/09/2025 06:02

congratulations❤️

OP why don't you allow yourself a scan every x amount of weeks or every month. If you can afford it then why not. Perhaps once you reach 12 weeks or whatever you may feel they're unnecessary and relax a little bit. Be kind to yourself you've been through a lot.

also, my boobs stopped hurting at 7 weeks. :)

Thank you, we have another scan on the 13th, the doctors are very thorough given my history. I’m going to get checked out sooner I think because my blood pressure is a little high too. Prob from overthinking everything!

thank you for sharing about your boobs it’s prob normal and I’m just lost in my head here.

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