Pregnant at 41

[Elaney11]

Hi Everyone.
I am currently writing this post upset, my brain feels like it is cotton wool.
Basically we had being trying to TTC for years, nothing was ever happening. Had my left tube removed, was told my AMH was literally non-existent of 0.02 and about 2 years ago I got diagnosed with peri menopause, no periods the past 12 months. I was distraught when I got told this news.
Changed jobs to a job ive always wanted to be in, just starting to live life now as we already have a son who is 19, and said "do you know what this is our time now"

Cut a long story short, im meant to be going for a CT scan, hospital has phoned me and asked me to do a pregnancy test to make sure I wasn't pregnant as I said to them there is not a chance. Said to myself right better do one and send it to them.
Low and behold a very faint positive came up, nearly fell off the toilet, rushed to the pharmacy to buy a digital and came up Pregnant 1-2

If this happened a few years ago I'd be on cloud nine, but I really dont know how to feel right now.
Financially I can't afford to give up my job, and thats the biggest worry and also the life we were just starting.

I sound so selfish expressing this out loud but i have so many mixed emotions about it all.

Anyone ever being in the same situation please 🙏

well as this is a huge shock, give yourself time to get over that before making any decisions at all.
Have some breathing space and don’t panic, then think about how you want to proceed, it is a big adjustment emotionally, from thinking you couldn’t get pregnant .

Not exactly the same but we’d been TTC for 3 years with no joy, decided it wasn’t going to happen for us so started to plan a lovely child free life. Knuckled down at work and planned a dream long haul holiday. Lo and behold, 3 weeks before my 40th birthday (and 6 days before we departed for the trip) I found out I was pregnant. A big shock and a lot of wobbling but we went ahead and now have an amazing 15 month old. I work slightly less than full time hours and am about to be promoted which I really didn’t think would happen. It’s actually improved work because I no longer take it home with me as I used to do, at 4.30pm that’s me done until the next day. Congratulations OP x

Three years of TTC after losing twins, very sadly made our peace that it wasn’t going to happen for us. I turned 45, I took a big promotion at work, partner and I started making plans for the future.

Yep you guessed it, BFP a week into my new job! My initial reaction was a wave of grief and dread - for opening us up to more pain when we’d worked so hard to get past it, worry about miscarriage and possible TFMR.

We’re now at 20 weeks and it’s been a rollercoaster - my one slight comfort in all the worry about this wee one, is that we had found a way to start rebuilding our lives once, and if the very worst happens and we lose this wee one, we can do it again.

I’ll say this: high risk pregnancy in your 40s is not for the faint hearted, and if you do decide to protect your peace and end the pregnancy I think it’s completely understandable.

UPDATE: I had to get a blood test done, bloods have come back as 5, doctors said this is negative. Very very confused as I had 2 positive pregnancy tests, one being a digital that said Pregnant 1-2