Constantly sick

[Fuzzyhippo]

I'm 8 weeks today and have been experiencing constant nausea and sickness for the last two weeks. With my previous babies (who were all boys funnily enough), I experienced morning sickness but once sick I felt normal for the rest of the day. No nausea, hardly any aversions. But this time round it's different. Can hardly keep anything down, can't open the fridge without it setting me off. The house is disgusting because I can't stand up or clean. My boyfriend is constantly on at me saying I'm faking it for his attention, he doesn't help with anything around the home so I find I'm having to do his washing up, putting his rubbish away etc. I have this constant "off" taste in my mouth, which I know is normal but it's just horrible. I feel very flu-like with chills and stuffiness. I have to do the food shop later which I'm dreading. I feel I'm unable to care for my toddler and it's making me feel so guilty. Boyfriend says I'm being lazy but he doesn't understand how debilitating this is. I'm guessing this will likely go on for the rest of the pregnancy if it's this bad now, so I have no idea how I'm going to cope.

So far I've tried:
The usual ginger biscuits
Eating plain foods little and often
Fizzy water
Smelling lemons
Ice lollies
Lots of fresh air

Nothing is working. Ideally I'd like to avoid medication, but I think that's my only option now. Anything else I haven't tried because I'm at breaking point and I swear this will be the end of my relationship if I can't find a way to get better soon 😔 I also don't have a midwife yet as I've been too poorly to think about it. But I'll see if my GP can help

I really feel for you: I had 24/7 morning sickness too, throwing up a few times a day. It was horrendous.

For me it stopped around 16 weeks, so the fact it's bad doesn't mean it'll last the whole pregnancy.

What you really shouldn't have to contend with though is your boyfriend suggesting you're being lazy and faking it for attention!! That's awful behaviour on his part 😯 How can he even think that??

I completely sympathize, I'm nearly 11 weeks and I've had this awful sickness since week 5! I also had minimal nausea with my boys but with my daughter I was hospitalized with severe HG. It's not quite that bad this time but I'm thinking this is a girl because of how bad it is!
Your partner sounds very unsupportive, does he understand how debilitating HG can be? If this sickness is stopping you being able to live a normal life and you're struggling to eat then it's likely you do have HG. You don't have to be throwing up constantly to have it. I would definitely suggest trying to get some anti sickness. I'm taking xonvea and unfortunately I can't say it's making a lot of difference, but it may help you. And also - my partner isn't the most understanding person at the best of times but he has never said I'm being lazy when I'm laid on the sofa all day. He's been doing all the cooking, cleaning etc and understands I'm just too unwell at the moment. It's absolutely not right if your partner is still expecting you to clean up/ go shopping etc, he should be picking up the slack if you're that unwell. You deserve better and if I was you I'd just go on bed rest and do th shopping online. You need to put yourself and baby first right now!

Are you managing to get enough fluids in? If not it will be worth going to A&E if very dehydrated they will test for ketones in urine and give an anti sickness IV and fluids- it makes a huge difference. I would definitely get into the GP for anti sickness meds- it can take a few try’s to get one that works.
Dont pressure yourself to do anything you don’t feel up to. I remember getting my toddler a snack bowl with fruits and yoghurts and things in during my second pregnancy so I didn’t have to get up to feed her all the time and throwing a ball across the room for her to retrieve like a dog- anything to get a few minutes lying down when you just want to lie with your eyes closed.

I had constant nausea from 5.5weeks until 16 weeks. I would gag randomly during the day but rarely actually be sick. Just waves of nausea. My saving grace… carbs. Potatoes, bread and scrambled eggs. It was the only thing that didn’t make me gag and curbed the nausea for a moment. I tried ginger tea, I hate ginger, it made me gag even worse but I tried to push on through with one cup, to see if it helped but then read that you need to drink at least 3 cups a day to see an improvement! 🤮
The only consolation I can give is that it probably will calm down as you enter the 2nd trimester. Try to look after yourself and your baby 💖

Really recommend seeing your GP and asking for Xoneva it was amazing for me with HG and so many other women. You don’t need to feel like this. Also would be questioning my relationship if partner treated me like this. Disgusting to say the least and incredibly selfish to not helping with BASIC chores which he should already be doing

I would speak to your midwife as might be something they can do.. sometimes it does stop later on in pregnancy but it’s awful go hear how much you are suffering! And also - sorry to note - but if your partner is being that awful now, please just realise that he won’t change when baby is here.. all the sleepless nights, the rest required after birth / c section.. it’s a daunting time but it’s also meant to be a positive experience and I feel for you as it’s been tarnished with ill health / a complete A hole xxx

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