I have had very bad M.E for the past twelve years. I have experienced several extreme relapses over the years (being bed bound/house bound/reliant on a wheelchair). Finally last year after a "good spell" I became pregnant, (I am now 30 weeks). I can not say it has been easy and I have encountered problems which most likely are related to the M.E such as abnormal hormone levels, increased chronic fatigue and joint problems. My best friend, who also has M.E, has a one year girl and I know she experiences ups and downs with her own health due to the extra pressure having and caring for a baby puts on you, but she has coped and I hope I can be as good and caring a mother as she is.
Is your friend a member of Action for M.E? I found they were able to send me a fact sheet on pregnancy and they have also run a series of articals in the Interaction magazine concerning pregnancy and parenthood.
I think it is wise to discuss the matter with her G.P or consultant because if she is on any medication she will most likely have to stop them.
It is also wise to have a good support network in place both during the pregnancy and after the baby is born. I have a supporting husband and wonderful parents - things would be pretty tough without them!
In the end it is a personal decision, and on top of the normal worries of having a baby there are a lot of other issues to consider. M.E is a horrid illness and can effect every area of your life, but sometimes you have to take the plunge and not let it totally rule your life.
I do wish your friend well in making her choice.