Early pregnancy advice 🙏🏼

[TheRoseFox]

Hello! I’ve never posted on here before so unsure if this is the right place to post. Last week I had a scan 5w5d after sex but 7w1d since my last period. The sonographer said she could not see a heartbeat and it was therefore treated as a missed miscarriage I was told to go back in the next day for treatment for this. When I left the EPU and gathered my thoughts I realised it had only been 5w5d since sex so this therefore could have just been too early for the scan? (We had only had sex once said month so it had to be that date) in the scan they saw the gestational sac, yolk sac and fetal pole. I have rebooked in for another scan for this coming week when I would have been 6w3d after sex and I’m hoping for some better news. Unsure if I’m just holding on to a glimmer of hope, but my head is so scrambled and emotions are all over the place! Just looking for some advice and others experiences please 🙏🏼

I’m really sorry OP but I would agree with sonographer that it doesn’t look good. If it’s been almost 6 weeks since you’ve had sex you would definitely see a heartbeat right now. You should be able to see a heartbeat between 4-4.5weeks after sex.

Your sonographer would be able to measure the fetal pole and will know if they are over a certain mm that there should be a HB, if not it is a likely miscarriage. Do you have any idea what the fetal pole is measuring at?

I hope that you get good news at your next scan but I would prepare yourself for the worst :( sorry

Really? Everywhere I have looked online says that a heartbeat sometimes is not visible until fetal pole measures over 7mm which it wasn’t and also it says sometimes a heartbeat isn’t visible until 7/7.5 weeks!

I’m not sure where you have been looking but if the fetal pole is past 6.7mm and no HB it is a strong indicator of miscarriage x

was only measuring 5mm ! X

I would say if you are 5w5days after sex and a 5mm fetal pole then you are looking at a miscarriage :(

This is on the miscarriage association website - An ultrasound scan may be able to detect a pregnancy and a heartbeat in a normal pregnancy at around 6 weeks, but this varies a great deal and isn’t usually advised. All too often, a scan at 6 weeks shows very little or nothing, even in a perfectly developing pregnancy.

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Whilst I do think your sonographer might have been a bit hasty as to start miscarriage treatment without another scan - I have offered advice due to my own experiences (miscarriages) but you are coming back with pages that might suggest you may not be going through a miscarriage. At 7w 1 day you should see a heartbeat. There will be some cases potentially with incorrect ovulation dates or cases where everything could be fine which is why I it is good that you have another scan booked. It is good to be positive but from experience I would just prepare yourself as well x

Prepare for the worst and hope for the best 🙏🏼 Thankyou lovely x

@TheRoseFox i personally would ignore what @Pinklemonade37 is saying.
I went for a 6 week scan, my dates were bang on as I did artificial insemination as we’re a gay couple.
my gestational sac was empty, she said I was only 5 weeks. I rang EPU as I was told that at a private clinic and have had 2 miscarriages before, that was the Thursday, on the Monday I went to my local hospital and I saw a heartbeat……
my experience isn’t unique either, what you’re reading is often the case so I wouldn’t be rushing in to any sort of management.

whilst it’s always good to prepare your heart, I’d say you’re still very much in with a chance of having a healthy pregnancy. I’m now 16+2 and measuring 3 days ahead of my original dates, so the “6 week” scan that she placed me at 5 weeks at was just a slower growing little bean and confirmed a girl and all, so far, is going extremely well.

Good luck OP, I hope you get a positive outcome xx

Just to clarify OP asked for our experiences and I’ve had a history of losses. I have said in my responses that it is an indicator of miscarriage or possible likely. The sonographer should not of told OP to have management the next day without offering a further scan in a weeks time! There is of course cases where woman go back a week later and lo and behold everything is fine. I said to OP it is good to be positive but to also prepare herself.

I am not going to sit here and tell OP the sonographer is lying and it will be ok, when in MY experiences it hasn’t been.

Nothing I said has been nasty - but saying to someone you should ignore what I said despite OP asking for our advice and experiences is low

Although I would advise complaining if all goes well at your next scan, because this sonographer has told you to get treatment for miscarriage when all could be well at your next scan

@Pinklemonade37 hmmm yeah just think you were a little negative and doom and gloomy. And a heart beat 4-4.5 weeks after sex is not accurate.

anyway, we both wish the OP well and that’s the main thing. ☺️

Yes I definitely don’t think they should have advised me to attend the next day less than 24h later. From what I’ve read it should always be 7-10 days between scans!

@Pinklemonade37 hmmm yeah just think you were a little negative and doom and gloomy. And a heart beat 4-4.5 weeks after sex is not accurate.

anyway, we both wish the OP well and that’s the main thing. ☺️

Yeah you’re 100% right there!!

When I called to say I wouldn’t be going they said they only offered me to go the next day as I was so upset!!

Sorry, I can see that I may of been negative. I think I could just tell by OP’s responses that she was really hopeful and thought the sonographer was wrong. I have been through the heartbreak of this and I guess in a way wanted OP to know it might be best to prepare for the worse.

When you have been through losses you do assume the worse especially as it’s happened to me a couple times now at 7 weeks

I didnt see a heartbeat until after 8 weeks! I had one at 6 weeks and 2d and no heartbeat. Im currrently 23 weeks! I had to wait two weeks for a rescan!

Definitely prepare for the worst, I’m so sorry OP

So because you was understandable upset to potentially have a miscarriage they said come in tomorrow to start treatment - that’s so bad. I’m so sorry. Stick to your guns and wait for this scan x

I’m not sure where you are but in the UK they should make you wait a week for another scan to ensure there’s no growth inbetween before going ahead with any treatment.

I’m in the midlands! Crazy that they told me to go back the next day. Not much growth can happen in less than 24h!!

They date pregnancy from last period so if you had sex/ovulated 5.5 weeks ago that makes you around 7 weeks pregnant at least. You always add two weeks on to the ovulation/conception date. So from that side of things you really should see a heartbeat by 7 weeks.

However they should not be starting any miscarriage treatment until a follow up scan at least a week or two after the initial scan in case dates are wrong. It’s possible you ovulated 3 days after having sex as sperm can survive a while. So you may be earlier than 7 weeks.

In my opinion you should prepare for bad news but keep a bit of hope still.

Prepare for the worst OP but I agree that is so hasty of the sonographer. I find it so bizarre that they don't trust us to know when we conceived and therefore give a more accurate GA, even adding a week maybe, but not 2 and a half in your case.

If you start to have symptoms of course go back in but I'd definitely be waiting for now.

Keep us posted 💐

Thankyou for all the comments. Unfortunately it has been confirmed as a missed miscarriage. Time to process and heal now ❤️‍🩹